Overwhelmed.

Also still have to buy 25 table cloths, all silverware, plates, napkins for 200 guests as well & alcohol.

That doesn’t sound too far behind to me! So then, what do right on time look like for you? What’s your standard?

View Quoted Comment I guess I’m really just stressing about the photographer/videographer, hair/makeup every time I click on this app it’s like don’t get to far behind on your tasks. Also a lot of places I have contacted are either booked already or outrageous. Just nervous I’m not going to find anyone in time and end up winging it.

Book photo first, There’s a ton of Dj options and if need be you COULD diy that if you had to. Video is up to you on how important it is and can you afford it.
buying stuff-linens are cheap at Linen Table Clith and I know there’s another site people like to use. If you want standard white you can usually find them used.
i do not recommend buying plates, glassware and silverware. I did this for my first wedding and regretted it enormously. I’d rent or do disposable for a wedding that size. Truly trust me on that.
Vistaprint and Costco are both very reasonable, vp had 50% off not long ago. Try to keep everything as simple as possible to decrease your stress with such a young baby. He needs you and may be feeding off of your stress and it affecting his sleep.
As for the bridesmaids, I got nothing for you as mine are hard to communicate with. Our date is June 22 and none of them have a dress yet. Granted they are all ordering off of amazon as far as I know (all different dresses of their choosing). But I’m getting stressed on it.
At the end of the day all that matters is your are married to your best friend and everyone has good food and fun. Focus on that and hopefully you can relax. The wedding is one day, your marriage is a lifetime. Hugs and solidarity from one toddler mom to another!

It may not seem like you are on track but you are doing great. My wedding is September 7th, 2019 also. I have done all the planning and meeting with vendors on my own. It is easier for me to do this because of my work schedule. My fiance spoke with our DJ and officiant over the phon. Him and I met and booked our caterer. Two of three of my girls have been looking for dresses on their own. Really end of March is when then need to be bought. I would highly suggest Ann's Bridal Bargain for invitations. You may need more stamps for rsvps and thank you. We aren't getting alcohol until August for wine and liquor and beer day before. Keep your head up. Best advice I can give is get yourself a binder, label and organize sections by vendors, and print off wedding wire time line. Those have been life savers with keeping me organized and on track. Best of luck and congratulations

View Quoted Comment Ooh thankyou so much. 😩❤️ I will definitely check those websites out. I have bought all of our cups for pretty cheap I think I spent $125 for 225 cups. And I believe they are 16 oz. They are personalized and match our theme. I figured just buying bulk packs of napkins. Do you have any recommendations for renting plates??

It is still early for BM dresses. As far as other things you are doing fine. With baby sleeping try spraying some lavender or vanilla oil in the room.

View Quoted Comment Aww! Date twins! 💕
Thankyou so much. I have started a wedding binder it’s pretty ridiculous. Down to a music playlist written out. 😂🤦🏻‍♀️ I think that’s why I’m just stressing because I have been focusing so much on the little details rather than the big details. And I’m worried I’m going to run out of time with booking vendors.

If you are renting you usually still have to wash and return the dishes. If your caterer takes care of this awesome but probably not worth all the hassle imo.
If you must have real plates and silverware I’d rent not buy it.

I think you have an idea of what the next tasks are that need to be done. That is what I would focus on next. Just remember stop and breath. Things will come together.

You don't sound too far behind. I'd say take a step back and breath before focusing on planning again. I'd say tackle the harder things of squaring away all of your vendors before talking with your bridesmaids. This way all that stressful stuff is no longer hanging over your head. And as someone else said, it's a little early to purchase the dresses.

I don’t think you sound far behind! Try tackling one thing at a time. Dedicate this week to finding your DJ, research different people/companies and start reaching out. Find who is within your budget and start the booking process, if you have the funds to book them now, go ahead and book the one you like best.

Make your photographer your next task. Maybe work on 1 vendor every other week. Your mind deserves some rest.

I didn't ask my BM’s help for any of the planning for the wedding. I let them worry about the parties they’ve been planning. And I actually feel like the less people involved in decision making, the better! They’ve offered help on some things like painting wine bottles but I’ve gotten those things done fast on my own.


As far as dresses, set up a group day where you all meet up and go get fitted, try on some dresses at David’s Bridal to get an idea of what looks good on everyone, go have lunch. Make it fun, try to relax! They don’t know we want them to talk to us about the wedding like that lol I started texting each bridesmaid weekly (if I hadn’t already heard from them) with “good morning!!” In the middle of the week, I ask how they are and don’t even mention the wedding, they mention it eventually. Gotta remind them you care about them too and their regular lives!

I would look into photography and hair and makeup before tackling other things on your to-do list. Then I would look into a DJ. We aren’t having videography so I personally see it as low priority but if it’s important to you maybe tackle that at the same time as photographer. Then I would start researching your BM dress options. I don’t think you can expect everyone to drop everything to come shop with you so I would have a options and then create a group chat and ask opinions. Privately ask their budget before deciding on anything. I think the bride should make BMs dresses as painless as possible. I would then look into rental companies for all your reception needs. It will be easier buying and then you won’t have the stuff left over. I found great invites on Zazzle that we’re easy to make and super fast to ship so I wouldn’t stress over those yet! I would take a day off from planning, make a list of everything you need to do and then prioritize. You’ve got time!

I would definitely send out actual save the dates. I love my family but none of them are tech savvy and are very traditional, they would never think to look at my wedding website for the save the date...I’m sure they aren’t the only ones either lol. You can go on Etsy or vistaprint and find some that are around 50cents each.

It seems like you have the finer details booked but you need to start getting the big vendors checked off. You’ll feel much better! I know WeddingWire has tons of vendors with reviews listed...I would start sending out a bunch of inquiries. I am also a night owl and would send out a ton in the middle of the night and wake up the next day to a number of responses lol then you can narrow it down from there.

Are your bridesmaids local? If they are, pick your color you want and if you don’t care what style tell them where to go and the color you want and just leave it up to them to pick it out! It’s always hard coordinating when there is a group of people. Try not to stress, it will come together!

You are doing awesome! Everyone has given great advice but remember that you need to take care of yourself. I’m a nurse and I can tell you that generally speaking worrying about things in the middle of the night is one of the ways people develop insomnia. Also your mind isn’t in the best condition to effectively problem solve at that time. There is a technique called Constructive Worry. You pick a time earlier in the day when you write down all your problems and the next logical step to address them. It can be really simple and concrete like make a phone call or write an email. You can even write down that you don’t know what to do about it. The idea is that when you start stressing in the middle of the night you can reassure yourself that you have set aside time to problem solve when your mind is sharper and you haven’t forgotten anything, so now is not the best time to be working it out. You can look up the technique yourself but that’s the basic idea. You are doing great and you are on top of things, the big things like venue and food are done, so there will be a wedding, everything else is extra.

I’m able to multitask and work on different vendors at a time but this is something not everyone is able to do so my best advice is first take a deep breath, relax and drink some wine. You can do this. Tackle 1 task at a time. I’ll start with photographer which is one of the most important and tends to book faster. Use WW to look for some in your area with good reviews. Create a message, copy and paste and contact a bunch at a time. Then tackle a different vendor and task.
For your bridesmaid plan a day to go dress shopping. Hopefully the majority can make it and you all make the decision together. Is important since you’re 6 months away that this is done soon.
The rest would fall into place little by little. Every night sit down and accomplish something. You’ll be surprise how much you get done when you’re consistent.
You got this!

I found the majority of my vendors after going to a Bridal Expo. I was bombarded with information and emails from potential vendors, but it was worth it. They also gave special discounts for Expo attendees.

Another option, if you have it in your budget, is to set a meeting with a wedding planner to get some advice. I hired a day of coordinator and she offers a la cart meetings for about $150 for up to 3 hours. ($120 for me since I hired her for day of).

Having a professional help set an action plan was super helpful for me. She helped me figure out what to focus on first and take things one step at a time.

You are doing great! Just breathe and keep doing your research. You'll get it all done.

Hi! We are date twins! My wedding is on September 7, 2019 as well so if you need some support, you can talk to me!

Focus on one thing at a time. I recommend finding a photographer first, then DJ, then videographer. I personally haven't found a MUA, and have not started on any decorations yet.

As others have said, you're making good headway. You have 5/12-6 months. As long as you keep at your current pace, you'll be fine. Right now, I suggest putting most of your energy into the photographer/videographer.

My FH and I made a "monthly tackle list" (based on a more formal checklist). We each had tasks and a month to complete them in. We would fill each other in on our progress - creating a fun competitive spirit as to "who will be the first to check this off!" After those tasks were done - we stopped. Gave ourselves a break and focused on the rest of our lives. I think this was a great method to get everything booked. We had all of our main vendors checked off in about 2 1/2 months - including research, contract negotiations, deposits, and booking. I suggest the "monthly tackle list" up, through and until all the vendors are completed.

Im starting to get that way. First take a deep breath. You still have time, its better that things happen now instead of the day of or a week before your wedding. I'm sure you will find the vendors you are looking for. You may want to expand your search. some smaller companies give a better deal and you may get more for your money. If you have some creativity, Michael's sells the box invitations you can print yourself.