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Just Said Yes June 2020

Overwhelmed

Noellee, on March 31, 2020 at 2:26 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 6

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Not only am I stressing over planning my wedding but with COVID 19 running the show, I’m even more stressed. Should I postpone my wedding or should I think positive and have faith? I am having a destination wedding in Jamaica on June 27th. I spoke to the resort and my wedding planner and I was told that I should wait until the end of April before making a decision of postponing. To top everything off I recently had a conversation with my soon to be mother in-law and realized that she rather her son to be with his ex girlfriend than me. I’ve been with her son for 5 years now and here we are 3 months away from marrying her son and she choose to tell me this now?!? In my head I’m saying well I’m not marrying you so I don’t care about how you feel. Then I realized that my soon to be husband and I will be living on the first floor of his mother’s house. Let me just add that in this conversation my mother in-law told me that “ Just because you will be living here doesn’t mean I’m going to tell the girl (my fiancé ex girlfriend that came between us in the beginning of our relationship) that she can’t come here.” I am overwhelmed, stressed and pissed the hell off!

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Melle · on March 31, 2020 at 2:29 PM
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Gosh, i just want to say first off, take a breather. it's a lot to take in all at once.
for your wedding, i think giving it some time before you need to decide makes sense. it's also kind of hard because i can imagine for a destination wedding it might be financially taxing on some people that may have been hit harder financially by this pandemic.
but as for your mother in law - that's nuts that she said that to you. did something happen? like were you guys arguing about something and she just threw that at you to make you upset?
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Noellee · on March 31, 2020 at 3:54 PM
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Yeah I think with a lot of people being laid off some people won’t be able to attend my wedding anymore.
No, my mother in law were not arguing. We were actually bonding for a second up until she randomly show me a picture of a baby and told me it was (the girl’s) baby. I kindly asked her not to talk me about the girl because I don’t like her. I expressed how I felt and she didn’t like it. She loves this girl and her kids. Kids that are not my fiancé’s. Apparently she didn’t know I felt this way about this girl and she got very defensive with me. I told her to have a good night and left.
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Melle · on March 31, 2020 at 4:12 PM
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i think what you did was right - she should actually be able to respect the fact that you don't want to talk about her. and as uncomfortable as it may make you, her relationship with other people is unfortunately out of your hands but i do agree that if you asked not to talk about that ex, then that should be respected.
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Noellee · on March 31, 2020 at 7:18 PM
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I try my best to be respectful when it comes to his family because they really don’t know me. I told my fiancé everything and he spoke to his mother. I really hope she takes this time while we are in this lock down to think about someone else’s feelings other than her own.
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Gina · on April 6, 2020 at 1:45 PM
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Hi Noellee,
That's really a tough spot you are in. I'm so sorry to hear about the stress and pressure you are under from your MIL. My best piece of advice is to kill her with kindness! You will get through this.
For your wedding, are you hoping to reschedule to a time when you're more confident your guests will be able to attend, or do you plan to go ahead in June if you can? Would you consider doing a live stream online for any guests who can't attend in person? Or are you reviewing your contracts to see what your postponement options might be?
It may help you make your decision if you can connect with other couples planning June weddings - June 2020 Weddings - How's everyone feeling?
Good luck
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Noellee · on April 6, 2020 at 8:22 PM
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Hello Gina,
Thank you for taking the time to read my story and respond. I have not spoken to my MIL since that conversation and I left her to my fiance to deal with. We made the decision to go to the courthouse and get married as soon as everything opens. Livestreaming sounds like a really good idea, thank you. We also changed the date of our destination wedding to August instead. With the new date change, I believe a lot of our guests won't be able to attend because some already put in their vacation time at their jobs. I really cannot push this date back any further because my fiance will be leaving for the air force soon. I would love for everyone to celebrate with us but I just don't see that happening.

Thank you
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