Overwhelmed and just letting it out about cost of this wedding.

When I first started planning this wedding my goal was to do everything on a moderate budget. We had just bought a house the year before, I still have student debt and we had new doors and windows installed the first 3 months of owning the house. My venue has 2 caterers, one that is all organic and farm to table, the other is the budget friendly. When I made the budget, I looked at doing a lot of things to keep the costs down including picking the budget friendly caterer that still had good reviews. But still keeping it classy. I knew my FH would always compare to his sister’s wedding but I never expected how much he would want. The menu is huge because we needed to add stuff, and before I knew it we were with the more expensive caterer with a gigantic Family Style Menu. While his mother pushed for it, he personally wanted as well. If it had been just his mother I would have stood my ground but I truly believe that he wanted a lot of things so I went with it. (cont in comments)