Over 60percent decline rate...*sigh* and apparently some people have to be a**holes... about it

I just wanted to drop by and say-

Joy you're a twat waffle.

I suggest that from here on out, all of us completely ignore Joy. As in she does not exist as far as we are concerned. She only has power here as long as we give it to her. She is clearly just looking for attention- she keeps coming onto an internet forum to say how she doesn't give a shit about anyone on it. What a waste of everyone's time and energy, including hers!

Joy- the only thing I have to say to you before ceasing to acknowledge you is this. How sad it is for you that you carry around so much hate and self loathing. It is expensive to be that nasty, especially over something that has literally nothing to do with you. Anger, hate, rage are all very expensive emotions. I hope that at some point you are able to resolve whatever that is deep inside of you that would make you want to act the way you do.

Nicola- I know I am going to take it personally when I get declines and I already know a lot of my friends can be really flaky. So I understand how you're feeling, just try to focus on the cost savings and that it will be closer to your vision. Big hugs!

Joy, consider yourself flagged! By the way, its not smart to put your whole life online. Everyone and their mother is on your wedding website, which anyone can see.

Watch your language Joy. I'm not the one who came into a thread and started harassing someone out of the blue when she's already having a crummy day!

You are so articulate Joy..it's amazing.

FMM, hah! Extra funny since Hugh Laurie is British.

Nicola, your wedding will still be wonderful and your FH's friends and family are happy to celebrate with you too. Trust me from experience, I'm sure the friends and family who can't make it are just as upset that they can't celebrate with you--they'll probably be stalking social media for pictures and will be so excited to see you and hear all about the wedding at your after-celebration. I know that it's easier said than done, but try to focus on who will be there, not who won't be there.

I'm trying SO hard to be sentimental...

I wish y'all could do the same.

Haha!

I think "Joy"Bekee is actually a very elaborate troll. Hopefully, WWKatie sees some of the ridiculous shit she spills and bans her from the site because even if she's not a fake account... she's the classic definition of a troll.

Anyways, @Nicola... I'm sorry for your decline rate I'm afraid that's how it will be for FH's side. But remember, your wedding will be beautiful as you're marrying the one you want to spend the rest of your life with!

I went out to have a drink with a friend for her birthday - so I missed some of this. I don't know what was said by Joy that was flagged - but thank you all for all the supportive messages.

It seems like some people just enjoy being assholes.

I'm feeling better about things now. Realising I think that it's OK for me to be disappointed, but that I also just need to look at the bigger picture and all the positives! Like how much extra money we'll have for our honeymoon in Scotland!

As for Joy - well - I honestly actually feel sorry for you right now. Because you must have been hurt in the past at some point to have become this unpleasant.

Glad you are feeling better Nicola!

I'm really not sure what crawled up Joy's butt but I do know she was having DW to London so something may have gone down over there that she's still bitter about. Not surprising given her attitude.

I'm sorry Nicola...we'll be dealing with something similar I'm afraid with FH's family and friends, since they'll be coming from Spain and other parts of Europe. Even 2 of my bridesmaids aren't sure if they'll be able to make it :-( Try to cheer up and focus on giving those that are going an awesome time.

Nicola, it's perfectly natural to feel some sadness which each decline. That happens even if you know it's coming. My mother is English by birth and my father is American. They were married in London (long ago) -- the opposite of you and your FH. He didn't have a single family member in attendance (and he had a large Irish/Catholic family back in NY). They still had a nice church wedding with a reception. Focus on your grandmother. She's making one hell of an effort to be with you on your wedding day. I promise, your wedding will be great. Skype it or video tape it for your English friends and relatives who want to be there, but can't.

And as for you, JoyBeNuts (or whatever your name is), if this were a "mental health/reintroduction to society after institutionalization" forum, you might be better tolerated by the members who realize that you have only achieved a quarter of your goal (which is to be a non-judgmental and literate member of society). I've read one or two of your butchered posts and decided that transcribing them into English was more trouble than it would be worth. Your odd footnote of "ha ha" at the end of many of your posts is disturbing -- it reads like the signature of a child who gets off on negative attention. You are prejudiced, JoyBeQuiet (or whatever your name is). Your original post on this thread, so offensive that it was removed by the community, is something I didn't see. However, the general message in that post was repeated by several posters who responded to it. What I've gathered is that you have insulted the English by calling them lazy (and something else I'm not bothering to go back and find). My mother is 100% English, and she didn't leave the UK until she was 24. She had three small children by that time -- and she took excellent care of them while working at night in a department store to add to the family income. Lazy was a word that wasn't in her vocabulary, let alone her character. You have no idea...absolutely none. My nana, who didn't leave the UK until she was well into her forties, supported her family with her artwork (and she earned enough to buy a home). She labored for years, long into the night despite her widespread crippling rheumatoid arthritis, painting on canvas and glass -- and that was after she took care of her two daughters and during the the Nazi bombing of England (look it up and see all of the lazy English loafers napping amidst the rubble that used to be their city). You have pushed my buttons, JoyBeGone (and on a wedding forum, of all places). Where do you get off thinking your overt prejudice will be tolerated? We're not talking about damn cash bars -- we're talking about people. You are a strange person, and if you haven't yet figured it out, you're a little too strange. Why don't you come right out and tell us what you think of other nationalities, JoyBeScrewed. I'll tell you why -- because you're smart enough to know that if you did, your account would be immediatley terminated, and people like you want to keep their playground options open. Nobody needs to "know" you -- we just need to "read" you to get a clear picture of what you're about (it's more than you gave the British subjects). My most sincere hope is that Karma, a phrase you've heard but clearly don't understand, gives you an up close and personal lesson you won't soon forget. I have never gone off on anyone like I have on you, but that's because I can tolerate a lot -- but prejudice? Please, get lost. Why don't you go play on Reddit?

Has Joy been voted off the island yet? I would like to cast my vote if not, but can't click on her profile.

Nicola, sorry about your decline rate. It is very disappointing!!!

OMG ""mental health/reintroduction to society after institutionalization" forum" Centerpiece i'm dying. You're amazing lol

Centerpiece, your writing is beautiful, hilarious, and on point!

Oh Nicola, I am so sorry Joy hijacked your thread. I am sorry your friends/family aren't coming and didn't rsvp. Maybe they were just afraid to tell you? Except now that I write it, it doesn't make much sense.

Either way I am sure you will have a fabulous day and a fabulous at-home reception.

So I really am feeling much better about things this morning. It helped that a friend who wasn't sure she would be able to get time off, now looks like she will, so it's an unexpected positive.

I'm still actually quite pissed off about Joy last night. I thought I'd have felt better about that this morning, but it's still bugging me.

WTF happened with this thread?? What did Joy say?

Sorry Nicola. I'm sure whatever it was it had nothing to do with you personally.

Centerpiece-- I know you hear this a lot, but you are fabulous and know exactly what to say every. single. time. I really want to start a binder full of Centerpiece-isms!