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Emily
Just Said Yes September 2019

Outdated Address Format

Emily, on May 16, 2019 at 10:44 AM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 30

It feels really wrong for me to address my invitations with Mr. and Mrs. [male][last name]. Has anyone else felt this way and what did you do to adjust the address labels to include the female partner? I'm over the whole "tradition" thing when it comes to that kind of stuff.

It feels really wrong for me to address my invitations with Mr. and Mrs. [male][last name]. Has anyone else felt this way and what did you do to adjust the address labels to include the female partner?

I'm over the whole "tradition" thing when it comes to that kind of stuff.

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  • Heather
    Devoted February 2020
    Heather ·
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    This is what we are doing as well. I didn’t like the whole mr & mrs male last name either.
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  • Becca
    Devoted October 2019
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    I just did First name and First name Last Name unless they don't share a last name. If it was a family I did "Last name family" or "The Last Name[s]." I often did it like "The Smiths" or "Smith Family." Otherwise I did "John and Mary Smith". Doing all the Mr and Mrs and Ms was a hassle. No one was offended by their name labels.
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  • Kaitlyn
    Dedicated June 2019
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    I thought about this too and put "Mr & Mrs. John and Jane Smith" on our invitations.

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  • Madison
    Devoted May 2022
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    You could do last names for married folks or honestly just use their first names. I like that you thought about this! Just go with whatever you feel is best and what you would want for someone to address you as
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  • Alejandra
    Super March 2019
    Alejandra ·
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    I used womens name & mans name unless they share the same last name in which case I did womens first name & husbands first name with their shared last name.

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  • Jessica
    Super May 2019
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    I designed my own and used my silhouette to address my envelopes. But I did Mr. and Mrs. down the side and then listed both names on the top line above the address. It's hard to describe but it was a way to acknowledge both titles and names. I'll take a picture when my phone is done charging. Lol

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  • Katie
    Super November 2019
    Katie ·
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    I'm just doing first name, first name, last name like "John and Jane Doe" unless not married but living together and in that case I will just have first names such as "John and Jane"
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  • Sarah
    Expert September 2019
    Sarah ·
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    I haven't addressed my invitation yet but for my STD I did "John and Jane Doe" or "The Doe Family" to invite everyone (including the kids) or living together but not married yet "John Doe and James Brown".
    I feel that "Mr. and Mrs. [Man's name] Smith" is out dated and sexiest.
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  • Carol
    Devoted October 2019
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    Same for us. We are using their first and last names, no Mr/Mrs. Our event isn't super formal.
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  • Caitlin
    Just Said Yes September 2019
    Caitlin ·
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    I'm taking a classy approach but not super formal. If the couple is married it will just be John and Jane Smith. No mister or Mrs. And with couples with different last names it will be John doe and Jane Smith. I've never like the old fashioned way of wording wedding invitations with just mister and Mrs John Smith. I feel like it treats the woman as just an extension of her husband
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