Outdated Address Format

We just used Mr. & Mrs. Smith for married couples with the same last name.

You could do Mr. John and Mrs. Jane Smith.

I did the traditional for the just couples. I also invited families so on those I did "The Jones Family". I'd think Mr & Mrs Jones would be fine.

I feel like that is very outdated too! We wrote it like: “Mr John and Mrs Jane Smith”

I have been doing Mr. John and Mrs. Jane Smith. And if they aren't married and I know the woman more then I write Miss Jane Doe and Mr. John Smith.

Never thought about this. I've been invited to a lot of weddings in the last few years. My first and last name are just on the envelope. No miss or anything like that. When my fiance came into the picture, we're now First Name Last Name & First Name Last Name. No formal titles necessary. And I probably wont be formal when I address my invitations either.

I don't think that Mr. & Mrs. Smith is outdated at all, especially if they have the same last name - that is exactly what they are. Now if you were to put Mr. & Mrs. John Smith and leave out the female first name completely then that you could say is outdated. But you're treating them both equally by leaving out both first names. If they aren't married I put whoever I was closest to first, like for my male friend I put Mr. John Smith & Miss Jane Doe - but for my female friends and their plus one I reversed it, Miss Jane Doe & Mr. John Smith. But if you don't like it you can use the other option of Mr. John & Mrs. Jane Smith but to me that is just awkward to read lol Mr. John looks incomplete.

Honestly we haven't been using honorifics at all on our invitations, just names. Especially since we have several people who are long term partners but not married, or didn't take their partner's last name.

"John and Jane Smith"

"John Smith and Jane Jones"

It really depends on how formal you'd like to be.

I am personally leaning towards leaving the Mr./Mrs. off my invites. I didn't include them on the save the dates because they aren't as formal as invites, and I really liked the way they looked. I also wouldn't consider our wedding to be very formal. Plus the majority of our guests are family and friends that are close to our age, which I know don't really care about "tradition" one way or the other.

My mom mentioned maybe using Mr./Mrs. for her boss and some of the other people she wanted to invite since they may be more "traditional". And if I do, I will probably do what other people have said: "Mr. John and Mrs. Jane Smith"

I agree Mr. & Mrs. John Smith is very outdated & more importantly it’s sexist, so I wouldn’t use it.
We are addressing everything with just our guests’ full names & without any unnecessary titles like Mr. Mrs. Ms. Miss Dr PhD... you get my point lol

Yeah we skipped that completely. I think it is demeaning. We did: Mr. FirstName and Mrs. FirstName LastName

I put together the guest list and addresses this morning for our STDs and sent to to FH. Unless FH changes it when it prints the addresses on the envelopes, I just put (first name) and (first name) (last name). I didn't bother with Mr, Ms, Mrs. I almost did the Mr. and Mrs. (last name), but decided otherwise. Not because it's outdated or anything, I just liked putting first and last names.

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I've been doing the same thing! Just the names.

Do the full names. John & Jane Doe.
Easier for everyone imo

I've been wondering this too. Every etiquette site I could find still says that "Mr. & Mrs. [Male First Name] [Last Name]" is correct for a married couple who shares the same last name, but it feels super antiquated and sexist to me too. I actually ran this by my friends who I felt might be offended if I addressed the invite to them as "Mrs. Husband's Name." One friend told me to address it to "Mother of Dragons."

I'm pretty sure I did our save the dates with Mr. and Mrs. John and Mary Smith. Mostly because I had one or two Mr. John Smith and Mrs. Mary Doe-Smith, and a few Mr. John Smith and Ms. Mary Doe.

View Quoted Comment That’s what I did for the younger couples. For older couple whom I know are traditional I used the male first and last name after Mr. and Mrs. for my save the dates.

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This is exactly what we did.

I did Mr & Mrs [male name & female name]. This also covers if there are different last names

Agree with the Jane and John Smith without Mrs./Mr.
You could always make an exception for that one older relative who will make a stink about not being referred to as Mrs. - it’s not like all the addresses have to match exactly

on the topic of “Mr. and Mrs. John Smith” I DESPISE this and cringed at a recent wedding where both the officiant and DJ introduced the couple that way. I’m going to specify that that’s unacceptable at my wedding before hiring a vendor