Out-of-Town Guests No-Showing?

@Sqwiggy honestly it could've been worse. I've seen brides spend $150+ on dinner for there guests so we did luck out with the pricing. We've cut contact with a lot of people based off of their attitude about the wedding and it's cut so much drama. For the first year we had a nice and relaxing Thanksgiving just the three of us.

Our no-shows were local. But we did have some OOT change their RSVP one or two weeks before the wedding. So luckily we were able to adjust our final numbers for the catering and make adjustments to the seating chart.

I think what happened with ours is that some people were very enthusiastic about our wedding, but underestimated how expensive it is to travel within Canada. It's actually cheaper to go from Vancouver to Puerto Vallarta than to Winnipeg. So I think they RSPV's yes, then waited patiently for a seat sale that never came (we never have any for that route), and realized they couldn't spend $500 in airfare plus hotel, taxi, etc.

We had a few OOT no shows, most we understood though, it was it was days after the historic flooding in SC and AMTRAK was shut down in the area, so ppl that were traveling to Charleston by train ended up not being able to get there. One person however, just didn't show, no explanation. And what was weird was other fam of hers drove down (from Baltimore) but she didn't show. My Mom was supposed to find out what happened, we both thought it was really odd.

I agree with Celia, but are trying to keep our guest list down to 75. (It's your wedding, do what you want!)

Veronica, I'm glad you agree with me but please stop writing, "It's your wedding, do what you want." That's just not true unless you elope.

We had zero no shows. We also had a carefully curated guest list. All our out of town guests made it and by out of town I mean people who took flights or drove 12 hours.

We had just one last-minute cancellation out of 67 guests--a cousin of my husband's who got sick and couldn't make it, which is totally understandable. Everyone else who RSVP'ed yes showed up.

We had one couple, a relative, who let us know two days before that they weren't coming and they had plane tickets. My husband's uncle had battled pneumonia all winter and was still ill. He didn't want to infect his 90 year old father so he bailed. Over half our guest list was out of towners and we only struggled with a few of them being flaky. We pretty much knew for sure come RSVP date who was coming from out of town and that was our only no show from out of town. I had one local couple back out because of "sick kids" and their excuse was lame since one of them still could have come. They definitely fell under the guidelines that Celia brought up above. We shouldn't have bothered inviting them. I had a coworker not show because his wife just finished breast cancer treatment and wasn't sure how she would feel (understandable). But other than that no other no shows.

We had one couple that was out of town (from Maryland, but over an hour drive) who RSVP'd yes but let DH know the day before the wedding that both of their young sons were sick and they couldn't attend. I totally understood- we were having an adult only wedding so not only were there sons sick, but they would have had to leave them over night with a babysitter or grandparent... its not like they were in town. However, they never sent a gift so this made me wonder after the fact if it was true or if it was just an excuse.

We had one no-show, my husband's cousin...whose wife asked for a divorce the day before...so we understood!