Out of state wedding.

As someone who also goes above and beyond to be there for my friends and family: no, I don't think you're being unreasonable. But, realistically, you're going to have quite a few no's and no shows and "I'll see if I can make it" and never coming.

My wedding is 7 hours from my hometown, but I already know who to REALLY expect and who I'm just inviting as a formality. Imo, People who really want to be there, will be! We're inviting 230, expecting 150

I think its normal to feel that way but realistically not everyone will look at it as you do. Since only the save the dates are out and the wedding is in October they may not want to commit on a definite answer quite yet and will wait until they get the formal invite. Just be patient and don't worry about it.

Thank your responding I am trying not to think about it and let it bother me but realistically it will and I cannot help but to feel hurt if/when barely anyone shows up

I am in TN but my wedding is in TX where my FH lives and the only people that will be there are his huge family, my parents, my brother and mutual friends. The people I would invite from TN are elderly and can't travel.

We are having an out of state wedding (eloping) on October 3, and then a big reception back in our hometown on November 8. Family who want to come to the wedding can, but we're not sending out invitations or hosting a reception afterward. We are springing for an awesome videographer to capture the wedding preparations and ceremony and we will show it on a large screen at the reception as the prelude to our entrance. Our invitations and STDs don't mention the actual wedding date, just the reception. Videographer needs the 5 weeks to edit the video and set it to our ceremony music.

First of all, If you're already married, why are you having another wedding? That's a bit rude, on the etiquette scale. Secondly, if you want you family and friends to be there, you should he something close by, and you shouldn't be calling it a "wedding" since you are already married. You can have a celebration, but it isn't technically a wedding.

Check out this info... http://forums.theknot.com/discussion/996776/legally-married-now-having-a-real-wedding-stop-here-first-aka-the-ppd-faq-thread

How is that rude we disnt have a wedding we had a 4 min legal session with a judge telling us we were man and wife! We did it because he is in the military and getting deployed and no friends or family were there. We are having an actual wedding so that we can have our friends and family there to celebrate our love with us! Also I am doing it in the state where my husbands family lives so they will be able to go! Sorry but I dont see anything rude about the situation at all!

How is what you had not an "actual" wedding? Are you not currently married? Because if you are, then you had a wedding. Am I incorrect? Please correct me if you are not currently already married...

All a wedding is, really, is a legal joining of two people. There is no rule that there has to be a big party or celebration.

My husband and i are legally married and are Doing are vow renewal and October also. We live in Florida but we're doing it in Georgia has all of our family lives there. And this still so many I don't know we'll try to make it! I wouldn't stress it . The people that you really want to be there will be there and if they don't show up and they reall y don't care. about y'all . feel free to connect with me if you have any vow renewal questions!!!

The day you get legally married is your wedding day. You are technically having a vow renewal. That may be the reasoning behind the unenthusiastic responses.

Well whatever it is it my celebration not anyone elses so there is really no need for any of the rude comments from anyone who are saying that I didn't already have a wedding because to me yes I realize I am already married but I did not have a wedding. I did not walk down an aisle, I did not say any vows in the presences of GOD and and I def did not do anything in front of my friends and family. And if I read the question correctly it wasn't about whether or not I am already married it was about the concern of who is going to show up to WHAT I CONSIDER TO BE MY WEDDING CEREMONY!!!!! Thanks so much

Thank you Williams 10-11-12 and KT-V your comments were very helpful and appreciated.

Girl I'm with you this is our wedding to I'm not putting vow renewal on our invitations . they know we are married and this is our wedding .The only difference is we're not having a bachelor and bachelorette party. I will probably have a bridal shower I mean that's every

girls dream to have what they want to . have. so do what makes you happy

I can understand you being frustrated. I sometimes find myself wishing that my friends and family would care more about my wedding day. No one cares as much about your wedding day as you do. Your day is going to be special. For other people, it seems so far away. I'm sure the people that matter to you will genuinely try to celebrate with you.

No it's your wedding and you could call it a wedding a celebration a vow renewal or whatever it is a wedding you're celebrating your love.And especially since everyone else gets thier dream . wedding you can have your dream wedding . That's what my husband and I are doing we're having a wedding even though its on our 2 year wedding. anniversary

No it's your wedding and you could call it a wedding a celebration a vow renewal or whatever it is a wedding you're celebrating your love.And especially since everyone else gets thier dream . wedding you can have your dream wedding . That's what my husband and I are doing we're having a wedding even though its on our 2 year wedding. anniversary

I cant believe how rude some of these commenters are!! I am also legally married because I needed a visa to move overseas with my husband. We didn't have time to have the wedding we wanted before we left so our W-E-D-D-I-N-G will be March 30th! And March 30th will be our anniversary. We still occasionally call each other finacé still also. No government document will tell us what our relationship to each other is!

Now to your comment - I was extremely reluctant to have a destination wedding because I was afraid my friends and family wouldn't be able to come. My fiancé talked me into it because his family is from near Puerto Vallarta and we were hoping his grandmother could make the trip. Now that we're a month out and know who is coming Im really touched that so many people are making the trip! Am I disappointed that there are some people who wont be there? of course but I know when it comes down to it, its not personal and everyone has to decide whats best for them. Don't stress about it yet and just be your usual helpful self, and give some guidance and help for your friends to find affordable travel and accommodations. I think in the end you'll be pleasantly surprised who's there on YOUR big day!!

I moved to AZ in August, and we are essentially having a destination wedding (about 8 people of FH's famly live here, and that's it)! A lot of people I didn't think would make the extra efforts are going to be here! Some people weren't able to get away, but it was understandable.

We invited about 350, and will be expecting 111, which is exactly what we wanted. There are some pros to destination weddings. It's more intimate and will help keep the budget in check.

People aren't required to respond to STDs. It's just sort of a heads up that you're getting married on x date in y place so they can start planning travel and a place to stay. They may not have that stuff in place yet, I wouldn't worry about it until you send out invites.