Jennifer
Beginner June 2020

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Jennifer, on November 22, 2019 at 1:26 AM Posted in Wedding Reception 0 23
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Is an open bar a good idea or have patrons pay for their own

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  • Benya
    Dedicated June 2020
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    Cash bar at weddings is a pet peeve of mine, especially if it's a surprise. If you really want to do it, I would somehow state it on your wedding website or something. You could have just a limited bar of just beer and wine if budget is an issue. If you're worried about someone getting hammered, it really depends on your crowd. I've never been to a wedding where someone causes a big issue when they get too drunk, but that's why you have a bartender who is responsible
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  • Emily
    Devoted October 2020
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    Cash bars are not recommended! If you are having alcohol at your wedding in any capacity, it should be free to your guests.
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  • Sheila
    Beginner October 2018
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    I’ve never of anyone who has a party and then makes their guests pay for their drinks!!
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  • Sexypoodle
    VIP October 2020
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    You can also host specific drinks at your bar (ie. beer, wine and a “specialty” mixed drink). That way there are still free options for guests if they so choose. But anything outside of those options (ie. top shelf liquors), aren’t covered.
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  • Emma
    Dedicated April 2020
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    Honestly, do whatever is in your budget. If you think you can afford an open bar, I say go for it! If you have wiggle room then maybe just put a cap on the open bar. We are planning to have kind of a limited open bar that will switch to a cash bar once we have hit that limit.

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  • Cyndy
    Rockstar May 2019
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    If you can afford an open bar then do it but don’t make your guests pay for anything once they arrive. If you need to cut back then do just beer and wine.
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  • Taylor
    Rockstar October 2020
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    I have been to one wedding that did not provide drinks. I don't recommend it by any means but if you're not providing it, I would look into your venues rules on bringing alcohol in. The one we went to was BYOB. Personally, I would much rather bring in my own than pay a severely up charged price to drink. Like I said, I'd try to find an alternative, even if you only supply one type of something, but if not I'd try to take this route.

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  • Jennifer
    Beginner June 2020
    Jennifer ·
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    Thanks for your advice
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  • Jennifer
    Beginner June 2020
    Jennifer ·
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    That's an idea
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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
    Champion March 2017
    Pirate & 60s Bride ·
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    If you’re worried about budget, it’s totally ok to just offer beer and wine (you pay). Less expensive than liquor or mixed cocktails.
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  • Melle
    Champion June 2019
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    Open bar sounds great if you can afford to pay it . If not, wine and beer only is also a good option. And is cheaper.
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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
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    If it's in budget, I would 100% have a hosted bar for guests even if you can only afford beer & wine.

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  • Chrysta
    Super November 2020
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    I have heard of people having cash bars at their weddings, but have never actually experienced this. Personally, I think if you are hosting an event it would be rude to ask your guests to then pay for a portion of it. I guess the way I look at it is, if you invited friends over for dinner, would you then ask them to pay for their drinks?
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  • Jennifer
    Beginner June 2020
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    What if your on a low income budget and don't have a lot of money to budget it in
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  • Chrysta
    Super November 2020
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    If that were the case, I would either cut down my guest list so that I could afford to host my guests, or push my wedding date back 6 months, a year (whatever time is needed) to save more money. That is just me though. This is your wedding, and of course you can choose to do whatever you’d like Smiley smile As PP had mentioned, a cheaper option is only providing beer and wine. Or, you could just not have a bar at all. You know your crowd!
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  • Kristen
    VIP November 2020
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    I agree with those that they do what's in your budget. Be careful with an open bar because I'm sorry some people take advantage of that and then they get drunk at your wedding do you want that? I remember a wedding I went to years ago the bride and groom gave everyone a ticket when they got to the reception site and that ticket was good for one free drink and then after that I would have to pay their own way. I've been to some weddings where it was open bar, beer and wine only or cash bar. I never get offended about a cash bar but I agree with what some people said and that if it is a cash bar then you should state that on the invitations just so people can be aware in advance. Another option that I have seen at weddings I've been to where for a limited amount of time it's open bar then after that people pay. Just factor in the cost of how much this is going to be because some people want to go to reception and get lit so just think do you and your fiance want to pay that bill.
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  • Jennifer
    Beginner June 2020
    Jennifer ·
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    I agree with that thank you
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  • Kristen
    VIP November 2020
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    Oh sure. Do not let anyone tell you what to do with your money lol. That is my belief. I feel if you let guests know in advanced cash bar then it is fine. I feel that people are there to see you two make a commitment to each other which is more important. If you not having an open bar is a deal breaker then they do not deserve to come to your wedding. Smiley winking

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  • Canadiangal
    Savvy August 2020
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    Recommended is a strong word, since you can do whatever you want at your own wedding

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  • Emily
    Devoted October 2020
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    That’s why I said recommended, not mandatory. Of course she can do what she wants, but she asked so I answered what the general recommendation was.
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