Oh boy. I apologize in advance for the book I'm about to write.
FH is one of 9 children. His family rented a girlscout cabin for the night before the wedding and the night of the wedding. FMIL has told us previously that she wants to have the rehersal dinner at the cabin. FH told her our wishes was to have it at the church, there is plenty of room. She told him her only concern was loading and unloading the food only to load and unload again at the cabin. We told her we'd help etc, it all seemed to be ok. Last night FH and I got into an argument because he told me his mom had talked to all of his siblings, and if the meal is at the church (where everyone will be for rehersal) instead of the cabin they won't be eating. So FMIL decided that it's at the cabin. FH told me that it's because his siblings with kids need to get them to bed. There are other kids at the rehersal that will now be out later, so that these kids can get to sleep. He made some hurtful comments about cont in comments