Our money

If you’re paying for it, you can have it your way. No need to follow the “traditional wedding”, but definitely have some type of food served!

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I am not inviting people who complain about everything. We are the only ones responsible for how we feel, so forget about inviting people who suck. Either elope, or do a intimate wedding and reception. With a wedding and guests, you have to pay for some food and beverages. My guest list is under 25. This is my max for my budget. I am paying 90 per person for dinner and 50 per person for bar service.

I also went to a friends wedding that did an intimate reception with a potluck. She provided beverages and cupcakes. While this is certainly not my style it is an option if you have a close intimate group. No one thought anything of the fact that the bride and groom didn’t pay for dinner,.......

Absolutely!!!!! Do everything exactly how YOU want to. Don't let anyone tell you any different

Pretty much how i would view it and expect it to be

I agree with pp to have dinner at a restaurant and let guest know they can come at their own cost. And girl Its ok. Breathe. This is about everyone coming to celebrate the lives you're starting together. The wedding is ABOUT you but it is FOR everyone.

Yes you can since it’s your day and you’ll be paying. However, I would keep the guests in mind when making certain decisions.

Yup. Your money, your wedding, your way!

We're paying for the wedding ourselves and are having everything we want. We gave ourselves 15 months so we were able to pay things off and are doing some DIYs. No real flowers at all since they're super expensive butttt using silk flowers I'm doing the arrangements we like.

As long as you remember that you are the hosts, they are the guests and you must - if you lay any claim to courtesy - make their comfort as guests a priority... of course.

If however, you are claiming that making your guests feel welcome is not a priority, that's just plain rude.

And making the guests pay for their meal is vulgar.

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Because they are guests that YOU invited to your special day. If money is an issue, then reduce your guest list to what you can afford to pay for.

Also, I have never in my life heard anyone piss and moan about ANYTHING at a wedding (big or small) that was decently planned and executed. The planning, thoughtfulness and genuine feeling is what counts more than the money spent.

View Quoted Comment They are not a guaranteed thing at every wedding. We did not have anyone where a tactfully presented reason for doing something was not accepted. But as with any party, we provided well for our guests. Otherwise, there is no point in having parties, or guests. Go off and get married yourselves. Let your honeymoon be your celebration. We paid for our wedding too, lots of extra shifts worked to come up with a $15000 budget. What are you planning to do that you think guests will object to ? Is it something generally seen as rude, or are your friends and family unusually rude?

Whose money it is doesn't matter when it comes to matters of etiquette.

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