Other ideas besides candle lighting/sand pouring

We're just skipping it! Lol, we're doing communion but otherwise our entire wedding is a unity ceremony and we're not going to keep a thing of sand anywhere in our home.

We aren't going to do anything like that lol doesn't sound super appealing to my FH or I. We almost decided to get dirt from my hometown and dirt from his to mix instead of traditional sand, but then vetoed that as well xD

There are unity puzzles and im doing a rock zen statue

Hi Samantha! I found some other ideas you could do during the ceremony that represent unity, hope they help!

7 Wedding Unity Ceremony Ideas

We did the candles because it was easy and a nice way to have our moms play a part in our day, but you don't have to have any type of unity ceremony if you don't want to

We did a candle, but I really didn't want to. My mom bought us one as a surprise gift, so we included it. It was a pain to light it outside - not a particularly windy day, but we were near the water. And, our venue didn't set up the correct stand for the candles; they left them in the plastic clamshell thing they came in. It was just the two of us lighting it, and I can't imagine how much more difficult it would've been if our parents were included too.

I do like the idea of lighting it on our anniversary every year, so that's the main reason we went with it.

Unity ceremonies can be anything you want.
Here is a few ideas I have seen...


Have a plant/tree planted and you and hubby add dirt to symbolize your love and watching it grow.

A cross.. there are 2 pieces and you assemble it together.

Sealing wine and letters into a box for a specific time.. your first anniversary, first child or even your first fight.

There are many ways to do this.

There’s also something called a “love lock”. Essentially a padlock with no key - once locked it stays locked. There are lost of options for it if you google it. It’s the only thing that’s appealing to me, but I’ll most likely skip it. The whole ceremony is about unity to me, really. Happy hunting!

We wanted to do something special for the ceramony but not the candle lightning or sand so we decided to incorporate signing the marriage license into the ceramony. We'll have the moh and best man sign it and all of our friends and family will be there to be apart of us officially and legally becoming husband and wife

We are doing the tree planting ceremony & it will “grow w/ our marriage”