Hi all -
First time poster here but long time lurker. I'm planning my 10-year for next year (with a guest list of around 40-50). It'd end up being destination for a lot of family as most are scattered around the country. And we're honestly expecting a good amount of people not to be able to come because of that.
A family member has just sent out invites for her wedding that will take place a month after the day of our vow renewal (we have not sent out any invites yet). Hers is also destination so family will need to travel. I feel horrible and angry that I won't be able to do both (we were originally planning a long honeymoon for ourselves after our renewal). And I'm also hesitant on having the renewal entirely because I know people will struggle financially with attending both.
My husband is upset and doesn't want to cancel ours. I just don't know what to do. 
Any advice?
