Option of using chopsticks

There's no need to tell them anything. You do not in any way shape or form need to pander to their racism.

View Quoted Comment I agree a shouldn't have to pander their racism i was just concerned they'll make a big deal out of it

View Quoted Comment If they do, they can leave or be escorted out. If I understand correctly this is your FH family? FH should take care of this issue once and for all.

View Quoted Comment Hes been trying to get them to not make racist remarks or inappropriate comments and has told them if they do it during the wedding they will be escorted out his father is the big issue because he not only makes racist remarks some of them are extremely inappropriate talking about things like size and "yellow fever" he was originally not going to let his family attend the wedding but he really wants his young brothers to attend

View Quoted Comment I'm sorry you are having to deal with this. Continue to let FH deal with them. I can understand wanting to have his brothers in his life. Perhaps consider hiring security, should things take a turn.

That’s horrible. Have chopsticks available for anyone to use.
I can’t tell you who to invite, but I can tell you that you don’t have to be in a room with people saying racist things.
It sounds like they aren’t going to stop - if he’s asked them not to, and they keep doing it, they are doing it on purpose.The thing about a boundary is that it’s for you, it’s a statement of what you will accept. Don’t let anyone, even your fiance, tell you that you have to give them chances to stop this, you do not need to be around them.

As a guest, I would love eating with chopsticks! Go for it! It’s your and your fiancé day and you two make the decisions for your life together- starting with having chopsticks at your wedding ❤️ Good luck to you!!

You can tell them right where to shove that chopstick if they have anything negative to say.

View Quoted Comment I plan to have my aunts husband and his brother act as security due to them being extremely tall husky men

View Quoted Comment Were having them there because my boyfriend wants his young brothers who he's really close to and helped raise there and if they do anything we plan to have them escorted out iv been dealing with racism my whole life so its just something I'm used to i dont deal with it I do stand up for myself now so rest assured if they say anything me or my mom would put them in their place

View Quoted Comment Thank you ❤

View Quoted Comment Lol okay thank you

I'm sorry you have to deal with this on such a special day. I say set each place setting with all options and as how it happens in restaurants you use what you feel most comfortable using.

I would have them as part of the silverware settings. Do not invite racist guests or include them in your lives, regardless of their relationship to you. Unfortunately it is not something that they decide one day they will not be anymore and you don’t need that toxicity.

View Quoted Comment I was planning for all options for each person sense I personally know how it feels to not have the option of using what is best for me

View Quoted Comment We are only inviting them for my fiancé to have his brothers at the wedding who are too young to go alone we plan on really restricted talking with them he has open communication with his younger brother but not with baby brother sense hes only 9 months old

i had chopsticks and spoons for mine. if someone needed a fork they could very much ask the waiter for them

View Quoted Comment I plan for all options at each person's seat sense my fiance doesn't know how to use chopsticks he does want to learn tho because he sees me use chopsticks for both eating and cooking and wants to be a part of something that iv been doing sense childhood we even made a cute little deal if I teach him how to use chopsticks hell teach me how to ride bike