Open bar Vs Cash bar

PP need to stop saying, search for open bars. We all know 95% of these threads get hidden or flagged so there isn't much out there.

BRITT ....please stop!

When the majority of your family is alcoholic but instead of worrying about their well-being or helping them get the medical care they need, you do a cash bar.

I didn't know someone could be so wrong in THAT many ways.

You know....I'm getting tired of seeing people write "we aren't getting help from our parents, we're paying for it ourselves."

You're not 16 and this isn't Your Super Sweet Sixteen. You SHOULD be paying for your wedding yourself.

Looking at you KIM!

No worries, of course I'm going to do what I want at the end of the day. I just needed some sound advice from others. Although we are on a budget I know from the start I'd rather pay more on DJ and open bar. I like to dance and drink.

Oh Brittney - The reception isn't supposed to be all about you. It's supposed to be a thank you to your guests for taking time out of their day, getting dressed up, likely buying you a gift, often spending a lot of money on accommodations if it's an out of town wedding, etc. Open bar does not automatically equal everyone getting trashed. If someone is an alcoholic and wants to get trashed, a cash bar will not stop them. Your comment is so offensive and so so wrong.

All those saying "Do what's best for you" or "Do what's in your budget" obviously don't know about etiquette. There is a difference between "doing what's best" and being a proper host. Like one PP said, the same rules would apply as if you were having a dinner party (in respect to providing food and drink). It's just on a much larger scale.

I also love the "in my opinion, it doesn't matter."

Well, in some peoples "opinions," race is also a notation of status.

You can't fix stupid.

"As long as you're happy, who cares??"

By that logic, you could just feed you and your groom a gourmet meal and provide hotdogs and water to your guests.

Why even bother feeding them if your fed?

Cut back to wine and beer and one signature drink. It gives guests a choice but is still budget friendly and not a cash bar or drink tickets.

Brittany -- tell them to shove it? Why are you hosting anything with living, breathing people? That's about the rudest thing I've ever heard a bride say about her "nearest and dearest" (who just happen to be bearing gifts for the lady who wants them to shove it. Why not just put a cute little sign on your birdcage or old suitcase -- you know, the receptacle for those money filled envelopes -- telling your guests to appreciate their two hosted drinks or shove it? You won't do that, will you?). Outrageous, but it's precisely the attitude I would believe someone hosting such a paltry offering would have.

Why won't people listen? How many times do I have to say it? In your wedding imagination, the people in the background aren't just props -- they're actual guests who don't appreciate being treated like...well, props.

Brittany said, "Its your day, do it your way! If guess [sic] don't like that they only get 2 free drinks tell them to shove it. As long as you're happy, who cares??" Are you serious? Who cares? Your guests care, and shortly after they discover the level of hosting, they'll find the exit and leave you with two hours of a scantily filled venue that you needlessly paid for.

Don't you get it? You'll care -- the bride. You'll start calculating all of the needless stuff you paid for instead of hosting your guests, and you're going to be upset. A successful party isn't an empty room at closing time.

So, go ahead...full steam ahead. You reap what you sow.

I wish there was a portion of wedding wire that the non-snobby folk could go and get advice.

Anthony...from what I've heard, there's a forum called Wedding Bee. Rumor has it that you can post the most etiquette failing idea on that forum without worrying about being emotionally assaulted with an opinion that doesn't support your "maximum guest list - minimum hosting/cheap/it's my day/my guests can shove it" proposition (as long as those annoying guests leave a gift before they shove it). I think that's where the non-snobby (i.e., those who have every excuse under the sun to pass on their wedding expenses to their guests) go to have their ideas enforced and their wounds licked.

#lovecenterpiece

My feelings on this..

Aaaaaand all the tacky people just got SCHOOLED by centerpiece. Per usual. Guys, she's a pro. LISTEN to her.

I like how people who are pro cash bar/dry wedding don't know the difference between drinking and getting drunk or between liking to drink and being an alcoholic. You all also don't seem to understand the concept of friendship. It means if you mess up, they'll still support you. It does not mean you can treat them rudely on purpose and they have to suck it up or they don't care about you. You all sound like a lovely crowd to celebrate with (and I mean lovely in the southern sense of the word).