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Savvy October 2016

Oops, I forgot to invite you.

Amber, on August 23, 2016 at 3:05 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 18

How did I let this happen? I can't even answer that question myself. I forgot to invite a married couple, who have been family friends since before I was born. My question is, how do I send the invite now, without looking like a complete jerk? Do I send the invite and totally ignore the fact that the rsvp date is literally 9 days away? Or do I reach out and let them know I am a complete bone head before the invite gets to their mailbox? HELP!

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Latest activity by Amber, on August 23, 2016 at 4:24 PM
  • R&B2016
    VIP October 2016
    R&B2016 ·
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    I would send and invitation as well as call and let them know that you made a mistake otherwise they'll think they were B-listed.

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  • E
    Just Said Yes June 2019
    Ernest ·
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    Amber just be honest with them. I'm sure they'll understand the pressure involved in wedding organizing.

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  • Swin.
    Master June 2016
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    I found an invitation under our couch about two weeks before the RSVP date, I sent them and called them on the phone and explained the whole thing. I probably looked like an idiot, but they understood and it was all good!

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  • Mrs. Sasswood
    Master October 2016
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    Definitely call and explain.

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  • DarasoontobeLatham
    Super October 2016
    DarasoontobeLatham ·
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    Just be honest.

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  • Laine
    VIP September 2017
    Laine ·
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    I would definitely call them and just be honest and apologize! Tell them wedding brain has got to you and you are so sorry. They should understand!

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  • E&M
    VIP September 2017
    E&M ·
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    I would definitely just call them and explain.

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  • Sam
    Super October 2016
    Sam ·
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    I would send the invite then call and explain. Give them a little extra time to RSVP if you can.

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  • Hot Like Bea
    Master January 2017
    Hot Like Bea ·
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    If you're honest, I'm sure they will understand.

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  • Rebecca
    Master November 2015
    Rebecca ·
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    Can you give them a card with a different RSVP date? You're well within the timeframe of being able to send invites and it not look last minute. Your RSVP date is very early by the way, be patient with people who might not know 6 weeks out whether they can attend.

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    Savvy October 2016
    Amber ·
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    My caterer wanted a final head count at least a month in advance. Which seemed a bit much to me, but they truly have the best food I have ever eaten! I decided to have rsvp deadline earlier because some people on the guest list aren't the best at following any deadline. I wanted to have enough time to accommodate "so sorry, forgot to mail this back" people.

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  • Sangele
    Master April 2016
    Sangele ·
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    Be honest. DH and I received an invite this week with the RSVP due back by this Friday. I gave it major side eye and happily declined.

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    Savvy May 2017
    Amber ·
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    I'd reach out. I keep going over our list.

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  • Cynthia
    Super October 2016
    Cynthia ·
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    Like PPs, be honest. Mail the invitation, but also give them a call. With regards to the early RSVP date - our caterers must be related I need to get my numbers in my mind Sept as he wants them 30 days in advance. Not sweating the early response, liking the idea that I will have plenty of time to make adjustments based on my guest responses.

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  • VJ
    Super November 2016
    VJ ·
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    Just popping in to say hey Amber! Don't forget to update your avatar Smiley smile

    If the instructions on the picture don't work, e-mail any picture you want to support@weddingwire.com

    I agree with everyone else's comments, be honest. You didn't mean to forget them. Just give them an invitation.


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  • Elizabeth
    Master December 2016
    Elizabeth ·
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    Call and explain. You can say you realized you never sent a couple instead of making it sound like it was just them. Why is your RSVP date 9 days away anyway? That's over 6 weeks before your wedding.

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  • A
    Savvy October 2016
    Amber ·
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    Read previous comment Smiley smile

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    Savvy October 2016
    Amber ·
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    I reached out and let them know. They completely understood! Invite is going in the mail tomorrow. Thanks ladies!

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