Online RSVP vs RSVP cards

We have RSVP cards, but said we would also accept responses by email. We have a lot of older relatives who would not be happy about having to RSVP online. Our friends certainly wouldn't mind but a large percentage of our relatives would be lost.

On the cards we are including a line specifically saying how many guests (if any) each person can bring to try to avoid people filling in other names. We'll see how it goes.

How are some of you doing online RSVP if you have a meal choice? I would like to go all online for rsvp but not sure how to go about that with the meal choice.

We did the old fashion physical RSVP. It's been a nightmare. Some of my guests mailed the RSVP BACK and I never got it. It took 2 weeks for one of my RSVPs to get to me and she only lives 30 minutes away in the same state. Then you have folks that have lost the RSVP. We electronically screenshot the RSVP and inserted text boxes in the name line, accept & decline box. Those have worked out well. We just printed it an included it with our RSVP. Also we are using the actual RSVPs as a reconciliation tool to ensure our numbers are as accurate as possible. Mistakes can be made on a spreadsheet so having a back up to reconcile against works!

We did majority of online and a few cards to my grandparents and older folks. The ones we invited around our age, seemed to have no problem with online rsvp but our parents, aunts, and parent's friends had A LOT of issues with the weddingwire.com RSVP feature. I won't recommend it. We had multiples who thought they RSVP'ed but they actually didn't, we had to track down 90 guests the day after our RSVPs were due. I put my email under the RSVP function and many just ended up emailing me instead of using the website.

We did online and phone/text. So far I've had a mixture of text/in person/online.

As a warning to other brides- I opted for my RSVP card to be business card size. I did not have pocket invites, nor did I attach it to the overall invite with a belly band. This was a mistake. They are so small that people are not realizing they are in the envelopes and throwing them away. I knew as soon as they arrived they were smaller than I wanted, but didn't have time to reorder. Why I never thought to just grab a business card and use it as an example, I don't know. But learn from me, lol. If you're going to use a business card size for anything in your invite, you need to either attach it somehow, or use pocket invites where it has it's own slot. Also, it needs to have a few words as possible. Mine is a bit hard to read bc the text is so small and there is a lot on it. What's done is done and it will be fine, but it's caused a bit more stress and worry.

I agree with Sara that the WW rsvp is a bit wonky and not all that intuitive so some older guests may have a hard time. Now I'm nervous that people are going on and thinking they have responded and actually didn't.

Bottom line is, I've been on WW long enough to know that RSVP's are a bitch for at least 50% of brides, regardless what method they used.

We have both as an option. I've only had a couple use the RSVP function on WW. Most people are sending in their physical RSVP card. I actually have been RSVP-ing through my wedding website for people as I receive their cards because I find it much easier to use the RSVP function on the WW website than keep track of RSVPs on both the ceremony and reception guest list (frustrating that I can't do an RSVP for a household on the overview list).

I plan on doing both. We have approximating the same number of guests. I ordered 15 RSVP cards and will include those with guests invites I think would appreciate them more than then online version.

I did online through TK. It saved money in postage but the report I pulled from TK had actually counted slightly off so we ran our of chicken cordon bleu meals. They had more beef, just 1-2 people didn't get the meal they actually ordered.

It didn't save me any time at all. I had to make a lot of reminder phone calls and texts, but no one had a problem doing it. I sent out 5 physical cards to people who I thought weren't quite computer savvy.

@Allyssa, I'm using it on the WW website and it's pretty easy! We're not indicating meal choices, per se, but we are enabling it as an easy way for our guests to notify us of dietary restrictions (kosher, vegetarian, vegan, etc.). Once you add the RSVP section to your page, edit the settings (the "wrench" symbol on in the lower right corner). From there, you'll be able to enable menu options and configure meal choices. Good luck!

Just this morning the best woman RSVP'd online and submitted it, with a comment, as "no response". Face palm. Why "no response" is even an option to click for a "yes/no" question is beyond me, but that's how it's set up on WW. Major side eye and shade WW.