One Pissed Off Bride

Like other PPs, I gave my FH decisions I knew he would care about, like finding a DJ. For other things, I narrow things down to options I'm happy with and then I ask him what he prefers or thinks. Some people are ready and willing to help, but don't know how to approach it. So sometimes, if I really want help with something, or I think it's something he would enjoy, I say "hey babe, would you like to help me put these invites together?", and he's always happy to help. But Rachel's answer is perfect. I second her advice.

I have no helpful advice because my FH has been extremely supportive and helpful from the beginning. I dragged him to flowers and church music meetings, but other than that haven't gotten any resistance.

I do think it says something about your communication and future division of responsibilities in the home. Hopefully you can resolve these differences now.

This is a temporary issue for 1 day. Don't forget the big picture.

Sounds like a typical male lol.

For my FH and I this is our second wedding. I had a big wedding the first time and he had a small DW. I felt a little weird having a 'traditional' wedding again but he wanted one as he felt so happy and wanting all of the friends and family to celebrate with us........ So, when it came to planning I told him, from the beginning, "As you asked me to marry you, and we agreed to a 'traditional' wedding I can tell you - this is going to be US planning. I have no problem making a decision about something you are iffy about but there's a lot of stress and planning so I need your help and support."

If you're upset that he's not picking up his share show him the "to-do" list and ask "which of these can you handle?" Could be a couple of things: 1) he doesn't know how to step in or feels he'd step on your toes (I think many guys feel that planning a wedding is the girls job) or 2) He feels if he steps in to handle something and ruins it you're going to be disappointed.

I mention the "second time around" thing above as if there's one thing I learned from my first "no one can read your mind........you may want your partner to know what you need when you need it but you'll be disappointed if they don't...........speak up and say you need help"

I understand you.... but you should really talk about it with him...in my relationship...he lives in ny and i live in texas

So i try telling him to search up things you like at least. All he says is idk anything about weddings... lol im basically screaming on the phone THERE IS GOOGLE TO HELP YOU OUT! so yeah hes getting better at it... he is just slow at this stuff.

I've been waiting to hear what he has to say about the tux... but it takes time. He says that all he wants is get married and thats it lol. Which i understand...

Take a deep breath....my FH's answer to everything I want his opinion on is whatever makes you happy babe. Okay well thanks but that wasn't the answer I was looking for. It's just how they are I guess. I am sure wedding planning is just not their cup of tea.