omg Crisis.

I'm sorry this is happening. They really should've today you sooner because it's not like Covid just happened. Could your mom still get ready with you if it is just the two of you? I'm unsure about the cake cutting. Our servers handled cutting the cake. Do you not have servers that could handle this task?

Kayse, I'm sorry that all of this is happening within days of your wedding!

Most guests won't pay attention to the fact that you won't have a flower girl, although I know you wish she could be there! I'm also sorry to hear that your brother and his family canceled last minute, as well as your parents wanting to leave early.

As for the cake, is there a caterer that will be there that might be willing to cut the cake for you? For getting dressed, if you won't have a family member there, perhaps it's possible to have your MOH, or a member of the bridal party help out?

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I hope she will still get ready with me. Dinner is buffet style, but that's a good idea; I'm sure they would be willing to help with the cake.

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You're right, they won't. I'm not having a wedding party at all, officially now. I just wish they would have told me before two days out. I am going to ask the caterer if they can do that; thank you and the other poster for that idea.

Anyone can cut the cake though usually your kitchen crew does that. Many weddings do not have a flower girl.

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We had buffet style, but there was still servers there had made sure there was enough food. I'm sure the caterers will have no problem helping with cutting your cake.

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I'm not upset about not having a flower girl, it's just being told that by my mother two days before my wedding that hurts.

Oh no, so sorry Love. No one will notice that you don't have a flower girl.

View Quoted Comment That is valid and understandable. This year has had many sacrifices

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True. The important thing is that everyone stays healthy.

I understand this news was upsetting and disappointing, but using the word "crisis" in your post title makes everyone here try to help you problem solve (i.e., the focus on reassuring you you don't need a flower girl). It sounds like cake cutting is solvable. And your mom leaving early shouldn't affect her helping you get ready.

I totally get needing to vent! But it doesn't sound like any of these disappointments and issues should make you want to cancel your wedding. Best wishes for smooth sailing the rest of the way!

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Not having my family there actually DOES make me strongly consider cancelling.

Breath girl! Don’t make any rash decisions just to regret it later. I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Is there anyone else who can help cut the cake? Why can’t your mom help you get dressed?

I'm sorry these stressors are happening so soon to the day. But, neither of these issues seems like a crisis. Yes, it would have been nice to hear from your flower girl's mom sooner, and yes, you'd probably want to have all your family there. But they're not, so just move on. Frankly, neither are crucial to your enjoying your day.

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It feels like a crisis that my brother, SIL, niece, and nephew will not be in attendance, and that my parents don't want to be there. Those things will make it more difficult to enjoy my day, but I will move on as I have no choice.

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I guess I am going to go through with it, but I don't feel good about it. I am going to ask the caterer to cut the cake, and I think my mom is going to help me and stay for the ceremony.

This may be difficult to hear, but you choose to move forward with your wedding during a global pandemic. I assume you have various and valid reasons for do so, but you should also expect people to decline. And if you don't want to have a wedding without XYZ person present, then you should cancel or postpone. All the time, people on these forums say "I'm moving forward and I totally understand if people can't come" and then when inevitably those people don't come, the couple is upset, angry, disappointed, etc. Weddings are super-spreader events. With the amount of community spread in the US right now, there is a high probability that someone with Covid will come to the reception, and if someone does, then there is a high probability that more people at the reception will get it. Ideally, people will give more notice. However, the situation has also significantly worsened in the past month and what people were comfortable with 2 months ago, they may not be comfortable with now.

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I understand that. I don't understand why my family was not honest with me. They wanted my niece in the wedding and pushed me to make plans. Last Thursday, my mom and I picked up my dress and bought ties for my dad and brother to wear. A week later, she tells me that my brother is not even coming and she wants to leave early. Had they been honest about these things, I could have changed my plans.

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It is frustrating and honestly frustrating stuff happens when planning a wedding even pre-Covid. The best thing to do is adapt you plans and enjoy the day with those who are able to celebrate it with you.

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I am going to try my best!