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Older fiancee with lots of friends!

Penny, on May 21, 2024 at 9:06 PM Posted in Planning 0 2

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My fiancee is 73 years old and is getting married for the FIRST time (June 2024). We both have a liftetime of friends (having lived in the same small town for over 35 years) but especially him. He is one of those quiet people that everyone loves! We have been together for over 14 years so it's a big deal that we are finally getting married. It's a big deal for us and all the people who have followed us through the years. However, we have decided on a small home wedding with our core group of 12 people. When I ask my fiancee if this is ok with him, he says he didn't want a big deal and he didn't want me stressed (I/we host lots of fun parties but they are alot of work! ). Since this is his 1st and only wedding, I want to be sure it's how he wants it... even if I get stressed. How can I do this?

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Latest activity by Andrea, on May 23, 2024 at 12:49 PM

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LM · on May 23, 2024 at 9:58 AM
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I say start by listening to him. He already said how he wants it. It's okay that your wedding is different from your other parties and can be as intimate as you want because it is about your commitment to each other. It's even easier going full alternative and eliminating large groups of people instead of choosing your closest friends and leaving out others. To include your partner with planning, you can ask his preferences on venue, food, decor, music, etc. Always ask his choices no matter your wedding size as you're a team and weddings are no longer bride's choice as commonly thought of in the past. Should you two choose to go bigger, you can hire a wedding planner to help with planning, execution, and stress. Best wishes.
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Andrea · on May 23, 2024 at 12:49 PM
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You’ve asked him and he said what he wants. Is there a reason you don’t believe he’s being honest, that he’s just saying what he thinks you want? If so, you can lay it out one more time that you want to make sure he has the wedding he wants too, you want him to be honest, and is the size of the wedding good with him? There’s a point where you’re committed and can’t significantly expand the guest list, so this is his chance to speak up on that and be sure.
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