Oh lord, Facebook money requests.

My comment

The most recent gals response to me was "well, Zola makes them "feel like" they buying a gift", I'm sorry, when I buy you a gift, I would expect it to be there the next time I came over to your house and not hear "oh yeah, we exchanged everything and got money because F you". Not sure what response she'll have for that.

OY. Tacky.

Sounds like she knows that it is a bad idea, and just needed someone to remind her .... or maybe she was hoping that she was wrong and it is okay... hahaa

Hopefully your reply will be the voice of reason.

What is it about Facebook groups and tacky requests & comments.

I know this girl who had a Zola registry. She had the most absurd overpriced items on it. Made me think she was just going to maximize the amount of money spent so she could return it for cash.

Yea it's really hard to believe there is nothing they could use in a new house. Tacky tacky tacky

Dude, wouldn't most couples prefer to get money? Why do all these people think they are special snowflakes who have a valid reason for trying to request money over physical gifts? Nowadays most couples have lived together for a bit, or at least lived on their own and accumulated some household items.

The OP said that all I did was make her feel stupid and was not helpful, okay, I said that I feel that it's helpful to tell her why her plans might backfire, id want someone to do it for me. I am not going to justify or validate a bad idea.

@melissa, same one!! You can probably find it again, haha.

Ugh. I hate this. We got an invitation for a wedding that had a poem about money ON THE INVITATION.

I like the bride, but I cringed.

Totally unrelated but FH proposed to me while we were taking photos with the sold sign in front of our house we just bought!

You can never win on FB posts. I'm in a tiff right now with someone who wants to feed her 100 guests for $500. I mentioned you could barely feed someone for $5 at McDonald's and some white knight "caterer" who serves HOME MADE FOOD out of her HOME KITCHEN commented about how caterers overcharge, and of course she can do a wedding for $5/person! Oy.

@mrs richmond

The requests I see on facebook are insane.

-sigh-

Oh my! I don't get people!

@mrsrichmond... ugh. I don't know why I'm still in the Facebook groups, especially when they're asking about honeyfunds or Zola registries and everyone tells them that it's a fantastic idea. IM the outcast on those sites, haha. They don't get it, when I try to explain that I'm being helpful so that they don't make a bad choice that leaves their guests pissed off, and somehow that makes me the asshole.

Ew, if all you did was make her feel stupid and unhelpful, then she's just looking for validation of her ridiculous plan.

I don't have the energy to be in those FB wedding groups...The people who write those types of posts in them are not looking for advice, just validation, so I don't waste my time talking to a brick wall.

I don't understand. I LOVE getting gifts. And it's all the stuff I don't want to buy for myself. So problem solved.

Errrrr, so.....I totally agree about the zola registry and asking for money in general. Ew.

BUT I have a HUGE problem with "when I buy you a gift, I would expect it to be there the next time I came over to your house" Gifts are supposed to be just that...GIFTS. No strings attached. Once it's out of your hands, it belongs to the recipient and is theirs to do with as they please. Including exchange/return/donate/regift it.

Holding a gift you gave someone over their head and EXPECTING to see it around is just mean. If the gift isn't to their taste or didn't work out the way they thought it would when they registered for it...how long are they expected to keep it and display it to soothe the giver's ego?

As a minimalist, I realize I'm extra sensitive to this issue, but seriously, this is part of how people wind up with a bunch of clutter. If I get a gift that isn't to my taste, I write a sincere thank you card and then it quietly moves on, either donated or exchanged or whatever. I still love that the giver thought of me, but I'm not hanging on to a set of 14 place settings of hand-wash-only, not microwaveable dishes (seriously) because they were a gift.

@Orchids. That's the exact point of having a registry, so you don't get a bunch of stuff that you don't want. You register so people know exactly what you do want.

Blah...i just can't with these anymore.

@Mrs. Knolle Have you never ever acquired something you wanted only to realize that it didn't work out the way you thought? I registered for an espresso machine for my first wedding. I didn't like it, so after using it a couple of times I donated it and bought a regular coffee pot. I had it for...three weeks?

Ditto wine/martini glasses. I registered for/was gifted a bunch because I love to host parties...but my friends aren't drinkers, so after a few parties where they didn't get used I gave all but 2 of them away and kept using my regular glasses.