Officiant wants to wear a kilt.

Is this a friend of yours or someone you’re hiring? If hiring, I would just flat-out say that you want him in suit or dress wear and a kilt is not acceptable. If a friend… talk to him, he’s your friend. I want this, is there some reason why there’s a problem or do you just want to wear a kilt?

I agree with Andrea – the way you handle this would depend on whether the Officiant is a friend, or just a hired professional. If this is someone you are just hiring to officiate your wedding, I would simply let them know what your expectations of attire are. If this is a friend, however, maybe you could suggest he wear a suit for the ceremony, then change into the kilt for the reception?

It your wedding after all-- no offense to people who like kilts, but I think that the main characters of a wedding should be you and your (soon-to-be) spouse, not a officiant in a kilt!

While kilts are appropriate during some occasions, it seems that this officiant will draw unnecessary attention to themselves- which seems a bit narcissistic (in my opinion). I am also a bit weary, because most officiants would wear something more conservative, and neutral in color (black, or navy blue), and ask their couples if they have a preference of what color they wear.

If the officiant is someone you like and respect, maybe say something to the effect of, "While I understand that you like your kilt, our wedding is more conservative in terms of our families and our dress code. We want to ask that you wear a suit that is _____ or ____".

If the individual gives you push-back and does not respond positively, I would cut ties and look for another officiant.

If this attire is traditional for the officiant according to his heritage I’d have no problem with it.

View Quoted Comment I agree with this. Unless the wedding is black tie at a venue that requires equally formal attire to cross the threshold, there is nothing wrong with them wearing a kilt. You can tell bridesmaids and groomsmen what to wear, but for anyone else that is overstepping to tell them what to wear to your wedding

Keep in mind your officiant will appear in at least some of your photos. If the kilt is gonna be too out of place I’d just say no. It’s not the officiants wedding and it’s not rude to ask them to blend in or tone down to match the vibe of YOUR wedding. If they’re hired, you are paying for their service. If it’s a friend, they should respect your wishes. I wouldn’t want someone wearing a kilt at my bohemian PNW themed wedding, it would absolutely ruin the aesthetic. It’s your choice of course, but if it was me and they insisted on the kilt, I’d find another officiant.

It is an odd hill for an officiant to die on, they are there to marry you not have eyes on themselves. You and your fiancé are the center of attention and it’s not a bridezilla thing on your part to want that!