Offering beer and wine rest is cash

Rachel, this comes up literally every single day. Scroll around a bit.

Just do beer and maybe a sig drink. Cash bars bog down service. Every person who orders a mixed drink will require a conversation with the bartender. It's a mess. It's confusing to the guests. and it's rude. "Yes you can have it, but you have to pay for it." Nope.

Most people are paying for their weddings, either entirely or partially, so that's not really a pass.

Cut the guest list to offer a full bar or just offer beer and wine, which is absolutely fine. Have the bottles on display so people know what is available to them and call it a day.

Just beer and wine is acceptable. Why even offer hard liquor if you're going to make your guests pay for it?

No one here thinks serving beer and wine only is tacky. Also, the purpose of an open bar is to host your guest and let them have fun, so of course people take advantage of it.

P.S. Almost everyone on here is paying for their own wedding. You are not the only one.

You're offering beer and wine and I think that's acceptable! If guests don't have the cash or don't want to pay...they can have beer or wine

I'm not a beer or wine drinker, so a signature drink would certainly be appreciated by people like me. That said, if you have to do just beer and wine, I think that falls under the category of properly hosting -- I do agree with others that it's probably best to nix to cash option. I've gone to weddings and events like that and it's always confusing/annoying when you see someone come back to the table with a drink they didn't have to pay for, then you go up, order something different, and have to pay.

No.

Just do beer and wine not other liquor at all best of luck

Do not make your guests pay for anything whatsoever. If you aren't going to budget for a full open bar, beer and wine is fine but I agree with adding a signature mixed drink as well.

Do not put ANYTHING on your guests to pay for because you decided to cheap out.

I'm doing just beer and wine. No liquor option at all. I would rather it not be an option at all than to ask them to open their wallets.

To clarify this is at a restaurant, so the bar is downstairs. I can't tell my guests not to go downstairs to the bar because it's cash only. I have a very small guest list, I am diy'ing a lot of my stuff, i am saving every penny. Good to know that's still not good enough.

I agree on just doing beer and wine. That's what we're doing.

No one said this wasn't enough. Beer & Wine is absolutely enough.

Are you saying the bar serves the whole restaurant, so you can't restrict to just B&W? How will the bar know that guests are your guests, and not guests from the rest of the restaurant?

Rachel, don't twist this around okay? What you're doing is fine; everyone has said that.

Just don't offer liquor. I'd rather be offered a few free options than a lot of options that I have to pay for.

ETA: just read the rest of the comments. Can you do a consumption bar so you only pay for what they drink? How is the restaurant keeping track?

These post show up daily. If your looking for approval because you feel like your circumstances are different, it's not going to happen.

If you want to offer liquor at a lower cost, maybe ask the bar to include 'well drinks' so that it's a more budget friendly option rather than doing an open bar. You wedding is not for another year, you can put aside $25 a month for 15 months and have enough for the extra cost of you small wedding

We are doing wine, beer, and champagne. Open all night. It's perfectly acceptable.

Please don't have your guests open their wallets for your wedding. Axe the cash bar.

Everyone here has stated that beer and wine is absolutely fine. The issue at hand is the cash bar for liquor, which can get confusing to gets, and cash bars are poor hosting, but hey! Sounds like you have your mind made up and everything figured out.

No need for the pity party. You posted on a public forum, people are allowed to comment their opinion/advice.

Piggybacking on @ladybug's comment-- how is that going to work?

Yeah, we're paying for our own wedding op, a lot of people are, so that's not a hall pass for you improperly host your guests. That said, beer and wine is fine...although I'd add one signature cocktail just for the guests that don't like either if those options.

Just read the pity me part.

Girl. Come on now. People have given you advice. No one has said beer and wine isn't good enough.

Thicken up and read what people are telling you.