Odd Ceremony Flow? Prayers after pronouncement in Traditional Church Wedding

Double post

I'm committed to doing the traditional church wedding either way, it just seems awkward compared to my experience with weddings. How does the Catholic church organize wedding ceremonies? Is the pronouncement the last thing?

Probably 15-20 years ago, I was a guest at an Episcopalian wedding and was surprised that the couple was not allowed to kiss until they got outside the church doors. They paused on the top step and got photographed kissing there.

Probably 15-20 years ago, I was a guest at an Episcopalian wedding and was surprised that the couple was not allowed to kiss until they got outside the church doors. They paused on the top step and got photographed kissing there.

WOW I definitely need to talk to my priest. It doesn't seem like the appropriate place to kiss after the pronouncement in the liturgy, but it would be so weird if we can't kiss in the church at all!

I've been to one Episcopalian wedding and they did the wedding, then the bride and groom sat down and we had a full service. As an outsider it felt really strange, but I figured it was tradition. I don't remember them not kissing, but I think I would remember that.

I would definitely ask your priest what other couples do to see what is acceptable and traditional if that's important to you and FH.

It is common to have a full Eucharist service, just like some Catholic couples have the full mass. We debated doing one, but to save time, and be sensitive to our religiously diverse guests, we decided against it. So our ceremony will end with The Peace that always proceeds Eucharist ( Priest:"The Peace of the lord be with you" R: "And also with you") That also seems like a really awkward time to kiss in front of everybody.

I went to a church wedding this past weekend (christian but not episcopalian) and they had some prayers, etc. after the pronouncement, but they did the kiss at the very end and walked out. maybe you could do that? i also went to an episcopalian wedding a few years ago and they definitely kissed, though i don't remember when it happened.

side note-- the traditional episcopalian service is the only time i have heard them say "if anyone objects to this marriage, speak now or forever hold your peace." i had only ever heard that in movies (where of course, someone objects haha).

@Ella, the tradition Episcopalian intro, vows, consent, everything is what you'll hear as generic wedding vows in a TV show or a movie 9 times out of 10. I don't know why. My rector says it's because the liturgy for marriage is one of the most beautiful, but he's a little biased lol

At our Presbyterian service we were pronounced man and wife, kissed, had a final prayer / blessing, then were "presented" and recessed. I didn't find it weird at all that we kissed and then had an additional prayer, it was brief and very much felt like closing words!

@amagill haha that's interesting. i never knew that before.

The additional prayers are kind of long, probably 5 minutes-ish depending on if we choose the shortest of each optional prayer. We kneel at the alter before the priest and then it's the Lord's prayer, specific community prayers for us and others, and then the formal blessing of the marriage.

I'll talk to my priest about where the big kiss and applause goes when we start counseling in a few months. I'll try to remember to update this thread.

The additional prayers are kind of long, probably 5 minutes-ish depending on if we choose the shortest of each optional prayer. We kneel at the alter before the priest and then it's the Lord's prayer, specific community prayers for us and others, and then the formal blessing of the marriage.

I'll talk to my priest about where the big kiss and applause goes when we start counseling in a few months. I'll try to remember to update this thread.