October 2020 Venting

You’re certainly not being selfish! Are most of your guests out of town visitors; therefore, giving you the feeling that you MUST send your STD now? Luckily Costco is quick with their production + delivery. I would re-assess towards the end of the order. You still have time.

Okay that didn’t sound right...STD, haha. But you know what I mean.

I’m October 2020 as well and I think of all this will blow over. I’m on California too and I don’t see our wedding month being an issue. I sent mine out in January but family told me it was kind of early. So honestly, there’s no set time on when you have to send them out. Plus, I think it’ll give people something to look forward to

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Thank you for the response! You're right, something to look forward to!

View Quoted Comment What i also did was make a wedding website and I printed that on the save the date. They can start looking at your registry and enjoy looking at some pictures if you guys lots of fun to look forward to!

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LOL!! I know what you mean! Thank you, yeah maybe I will just wait to see what happens in the next few weeks. Only a handful of our guests will have to travel from out of state. I am just over thinking. I have time

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Great idea!

Awe! Don't feel selfish - I get it though, I recently had to reschedule my 3/27 wedding for 11/20 and during that whole process I felt guilty continuing to plan and be excited for me up until the minute it was forced to be canceled lol. But honestly, focusing on something so beautiful and as happy as a wedding I think is something for people to look forward to once this whole thing over.

It's not a bad idea to acknowledge the situation just to put guests at ease. So you could always add a humorous anecdote on the save the date about how you can't wait to celebrate not only your special day but that hopefully this time is behind us all, or something small even your wedding website on an FAQ page or somewhere, that with everything going on, you wanted to share some positive news for a change - but as things change daily, you will be sure to keep everyone posted! With things being uncertain, for my postponement date I sent a save the date via text/digital invite; like i made one and texted the image to all guests. BUT because this is your OG date, print them if you want them printed and have a back up plan in case! If you print them now and something changes, just know you can always have a plan B you can reprint a 'change the date' or you can always go digital with your save the dates now, and then as you have more time and things change, then get your invites printed? (Not ideal, I know - but there are definitely options!)

October is so far away, so it's hard to say what will happen. But don't let this ruin the excitement and the planning! It's such a special time, so don't feel bad for wanting to enjoy it.

View Quoted Comment Thank you Alexa! I’m so sorry you have to change your date! But this is all great advice! Thank you!

I’m an October bride as well! I sent my Save the Dates from last yea because we’re having a destination wedding. I’m keeping everyone updated through our website. I felt a bit guilty to continue planning as well but so many family and friends are looking forward to it more than ever now so they’re all still on board. Ppl have actually been taking advantage of airline sales and booking their flights now for the wedding. I’d say plan as usual. If things get worse we can cross that bridge when we get there.

So, I did not send out save the dates for our May wedding due to a short engagement.. but ended up rescheduling from May to
August. We sent out save the dates for August since we did change plans so people just knew.

However, I have a friend that was getting married in June, who sent our save the dates and feels comfortable enough to send out her wedding invites 5 weeks early now because of that save the date and because now she can basically make a last minute decision with coronavirus if they will keep the original date or reschedule

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True! Thank you! Best wishes in planning!

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Hmm! Oh this coronavirus! Thanks for the info!

Reception is in September in Sacramento. Our planner designed our STD'S last week and will be sending them out this week. Official invites will go out in May or June with RSVP'S due beginning of August.

View Quoted Comment That’s good info! Thank you! Makes me feel like I can relax

You're being anything but selfish. You're concerned which is 100% understandable.

I'm an October bride, and we sent our save-the-dates in February prior to this pandemic. I've been focusing on planning lately because it does give me something to look forward to in hopes this blows over until then, and that we as well as our guests can have a good time & celebrate together.

It is a bit unnerving to think about the number of people this is affecting, but it seems many folks in the industry are being flexible to accommodate postponements and reschedules if for some unforeseen reason this isn't over or if we see a second wave of the virus.

I am just hopeful for everyone's sake that things can get to a better state soon.

First of all you are not being selfish, so do not think for a second you are. This is suppose to be 1 of the most exciting times in our lives. This "natural disaster" unfortunately has seemed go put a damper on a ton of things including being excited about our weddings. I to am getting married in October of this year, and this virus has not only been stressful and terrible for those dealing with it, but also left people who did have a huge event this year, in a stressful position as well. I sent my save the dates about a month and a half ago. I say you go for it, we all must take precautions during this time, but that doesn't mean our lives have to stop. We have to live, stay strong, and try to keep on. Try and keep your head up, I've been miserable and sad during all this because as I said this is suppose to be a happy time. And it really hasn't been... lol

If you are worried about printing them out but still want your guests to have save the dates, I would suggest emailing the save the date out. That way the guest still receive a save the date but saves you the money of printing and mailing them, that way if things are still crazy and you have to postpone you didn’t waste money

View Quoted Comment Yes, I’m going to keep planning. Hopefully things get better soon. For everyone!

View Quoted Comment Being miserable and sad won’t make things better. So yes, I’ll keep my head up with you and let’s be grateful and happy! You’re right, it’s supposed to be a happy time for us! ❤️