Brandi
Dedicated October 2019

Oct 26, 2019 - I'm so glad it's over!

Brandi, on November 5, 2019 at 3:31 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 1 22
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I wouldn't really say I regret anything about my wedding (I really enjoyed the day & ended up married to my best friend), but if I had the chance for a do-over, I'd definitely make some changes.

For starters, I would've taken more time dress shopping. I originally said I wanted a dress w/ sleeves...that was my deal breaker, but I was in such a rush to find something in my size & in my budget but also have enough time for alterations, that I ended up picking something I didn't absolutely LOVE. I eventually ended up at David's Bridal & they had very limited sleeved dresses in my size & in my budget to try on. I was so over the whole process that I just bought something that looked okay...and of course it didn't have sleeves. Don't get me wrong, I felt very comfortable in my dress...it fit perfectly b/c my seamstress was AMAZING...but when I look at the pictures I just really wish I would've picked something different...b/c I don't think I look as good as I felt. Smiley ups

I also wish we wouldn't have spent so much money on food, cake, & the bar. We invited 100 people, ~80 said they were coming, but only ~40-50 actually showed up. I could've 1) invited way more people (and avoided a lot of drama & hurt feelings) or 2) spent less money on food/liquor/cake/decoration & spent more on other stuff (better dress, hired videographer, hired a car service, etc). On the bright side, we used Sam's Club & WalMart to stock our bar, so anything that wasn't open, we returned & got ~$280 back Smiley catface

Finally, I wish I would've been more selfish. I was so worried about not being a Bridezilla, that I didn't get the wedding dress or bridesmaid dress shopping experience I wanted. My bridesmaids ended up in dresses that we ordered online & that I didn't get to see until the day of...and surprise surprise...the color wasn't right. My Man of Honor waited until the last minute to order his tux & couldn't get the one I picked for him. I let guests stress me ALL THE WAY OUT. And the whole planning process was NOT enjoyable & I'm beyond glad it's over. However, I will say that every time something seemed to be going wrong, it always tended to work out in the end. For example, the suite I booked for us to get ready in that weekend got overbooked & they had to put us in a smaller suite that barely had enough room for me to get ready in...but the hotel comped the entire stay.

At first, I stressed a little about the things I wish I could've done differently, but ultimately it is what it is. The people who really mattered & loved us where there & we had a great time. Now, I'm just thinking about all the stuff we can do now that the anxiety & stress of wedding planning is over! And I have some advice to help avoid the anxiety & headaches if anyone needs it Smiley laugh

Oh...and I have pictures!

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  • Lisa Marie
    Devoted October 2020
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    Beautiful! Great advice, too!

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  • Fenja
    Super June 2020
    Fenja Online ·
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    Love your flower arrangement!! Congratulations!!

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  • Melle
    Rockstar June 2019
    Melle ·
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    Congratulations
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  • Jaimie
    Devoted May 2020
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    Beautiful! Love the pics!
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  • Brandi
    Dedicated October 2019
    Brandi ·
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    Thanks! The flowers were the easy part... Wedding Flowers for Rent ...they sent them to me a few days before the wedding & I sent them back a few days after.

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  • Shireen
    Devoted May 2020
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    Congrats! Love the cake and flowers, you looked beautiful
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  • Cher Horowitz
    Rockstar December 2019
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    Thank you for being so honest and candid! Your wedding looks amazing, and I love all the decor you chose. Congratulations, beautiful bride Smiley heart

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  • Cyndy
    Master May 2019
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    Congratulations! And I love the advice.
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  • Cherry
    Dedicated February 2020
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    Congrats! I think you looked BEAUTIFUL in your dress, even if you had a little dress regret. If you felt beautiful and confident on the day-of that's way more important. I bought a practical dress even though I wanted a big ballgown monstrosity, lol. I regret it but I'm stuck with it so I'm just trying to remind myself that it's not that important.

    And thanks for the advice. I'm going to have to bridezilla it up a little because, like you, I've been too accommodating and polite and have cried too many tears because of it. Time to crack the whip! My BMs are also waiting until last minute to order dresses, FH still hasn't decided what groomsmen are wearing, etc. We're 3 months away, I shouldn't have to stress about these things anymore. Lol I'm so jelly that you're done with wedding planning!

    Congrats again!
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  • Brandi
    Dedicated October 2019
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    I’m not saying throw stuff at people 😂 but definitely crack the whip. Your wedding party should be making this process easier...not stressing you out! As for your FH, you might just have to take the reigns there...you can ask for his input, but you might ultimately have to make the final decision.
    Good luck! The finish line is so close!!
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  • Cherry
    Dedicated February 2020
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    Thank you!! And I will resist the urge to throw things Smiley xd

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  • Amy
    Devoted October 2019
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    Date twin! I love your cards and gifts sign, how clever! Such pretty colors in your pictures too
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  • Brandi
    Dedicated October 2019
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    Thanks Date Twin!
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  • Sara
    Dedicated September 2019
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    Beautiful! I feel the same way, I told my husband last night (while looking at our photos that we just got back) that if I could redo some things I would. I loved my dress and his suit. But I am not happy with the photos (very few of me by myself and our photographer was not very take charge) and our DJ did not do things that we asked and didn't play songs at the right time. But at the end of the day we are married and happy and that what matters. Congratulations to you and your hubby Smiley heart

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  • Andrea
    VIP April 2020
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    So beautiful.... gorgeous cake too. Love all the pics. Congratulations!! You're married!!Smiley ring

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  • Ainsley
    Just Said Yes November 2019
    Ainsley ·
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    Omg congratulations! You looked amazing and the two of you are so cute together. I’m getting married on Friday and was looking for inspirational advice, so glad I found your post! ♥️
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  • Patricia
    Dedicated March 2020
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    Yes girl you look beautiful and the pics are really Lovely
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  • Suzie
    Devoted October 2020
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    You look beautiful!! Love the cake, we also want rosettes on ours!! Congrats!!

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  • Brandi
    Dedicated October 2019
    Brandi ·
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    I’m glad my ranting is helpful 😂
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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
    Champion March 2017
    Pirate & 60s Bride ·
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    Aw, the one of him standing behind you and you’re looking at each other. Wow. Love the sorting hat too. And what a cool cake.
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