NYE wedding

Do not start out planning a NYE wedding because you think parents would enjoy a night out. That's like brides who think parents will leave their children with a strange babysitter at the reception, or think seating all the lids at one table away from their parents, is a fun idea. These kinds of statements are usually made by people without children.

NYE is the most expensive night of the year for both babysitters and hotels, so you are not doing your guests any favors.

Having said that, I have been to a NYE wedding and loved it. Have a NYE wedding, but don't go into it thinking you know what your guests will want.

If I had an unlimited budget oh yeah would I LOVE a NYE wedding.

BUT

It is a MASSIVE inconvenience to guests...asking them to give up a holiday spent with family. Asking them to travel or make babysitting arrangements over a holiday, which will cost a LOT more than on a non-holiday. I get double time and a half for working holidays so I'd be giving up a LOT of money to attend.

I would not go ahead with a NYE wedding unless I was prepared to both invite entire families AND have a lavish enough celebration to make up for the huge inconvenience of attending a wedding on NYE. I feel that I would absolutely need to spoil people rotten in exchange for them making such a big sacrifice for me.

It's going to be more costly than the same wedding with the same vendors on a different day.

There was just another thread on this. I'll tell you what I told the other poster. You need to go all out if you're going to do a Nye wedding. Top shelf open bar all night and plus ones for everyone. I'd also expect a fair number of declines. Regular childcare might be hard for people because it's Nye and their regular childcare probably is also out celebrating. Also, it's not up to you to decide if parents need a night off from their kids. If you want no kids then go no kids, realizing that some parents will decline, but don't hide it behind that old excuse. Parents are capable of deciding if they want a night away from their kids or not.

I'm also in CT. If you are thinking about 2018, the fall is probably already booked p at most venues. A friend started planning in September of last year and literally the only date left for this year at a number of venues was Labor Day weekend or thanksgiving weekend.

I vote NYE - somewhere like The Society Room in Hartford, Omni Hotel in New Haven, Dolce in Norwalk, etc. You would need to go all or but it could be fabulous!

Where in CT are you?! I'm CT too!

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Besides the budget consideration I think this also a know your crowd situation. Personally DH and I hate going out on NYE. I know a lot of our friends do not go out either. As @Orchids said some people get time and a half for working. That's a lot of money to loose. @K squared said you also need to consider childcare difficulties that guests may encounter.

I think providing a baby sitter at the venue/hotel would be a necessity for the child care situation.

We don't drive on NYE at all and we have a lot of family traditions so if I were invited I'd most likely not come. Holiday weddings are hard and I'd expect a lot of declines because of the holiday but if you do it right I think it could be an amazing wedding!

This notion that your invitation to your wedding is robbing someone else of something else they'd rather do? Be it a memorial day picnic, the superbowl (I know I'm on thin ice there, lol) or 4th of July, they can do that every year and if your expensive wedding a disruption to their life, if they would only come if it's the best offer? They should stay home.

That being said, while we do several NYE weddings every year, they ARE more expensive (not because we charge more, because we don't unless the ceremony is after 10 PM). Staff is way more expensive (at LEAST 1.5 if not double time), and venues expect it to be a bar heavy, food heavy night. Accommodations and childcare for your guests will be difficult and costly.

There is also the tax liability to think about; not as romantic but just a factor. If you get married at 11:30 PM, you're married for the entire year. At midnight plus a minute? You've both been single for the past year. For some couples it won't make a difference, but for others, planning for the tax liability part of total planning

Personally, I hate going out on NYE; I"m glad our weddings are usually early ,between 7-8 which is pretty normal for us.

I would have to be really close to the couple to go to a holiday wedding. And even then I would not be thrilled with the timing.

As someone with no kids and generally no plans on NYE, I would love this. My parents are going to a NYE wedding this year and are very excited. But like any holiday, or any other wedding date for that matter, there are going to be people that cannot or will not attend due to inconvenience. Talk to your VIPs and see if that even works for them. And what K squared said, you'll have to pull out all the stops, maybe even go black tie.

ETA: to clarify, NYE RECEPTION would be great, not a midnight ceremony. I am too curmudgeonly and cranky to be up that late no matter what the occasion.

I would love it. I have looking into plans already for what we are going to do for nye. A wedding would be perfect. Alcohol food and dancing. I'd rather pay for a gift than a cover charge. I would just make sure there is a lot of dancing and alcohol.

I also don't have kids to worry about. Prob a totally different story for people with kids. Idk

NYE weddings are known to be lux events. That means black tie/top shelf/all nighters. This means a large budget very formal affair.

As a late December bride myself, most of my guests are assuming(and are getting) a very upscale event.

NYE weddings: fantastic in theory; in practice an expensive undertaking that can burden your guests.

In addition to what PP have mentioned here, I'll point out that going out for/traveling for your anniversary is going to be a huge outlay every year.

Edited to add: This being said, I'd much rather spend my NYE at the wedding of close friends than buying one of those ripoff club packages that promise unlimited drinks and hors d'oeuvres but in actuality involving elbowing through a 1,000-person-thick crowd to get 4 fl.oz. of champagne and one chicken satay skewer, all while polluting my ears with the dulcet tones of a dubstep remix of Pitbull.

I say YAY! We talked about it and wanted to do it - but didn't think we could afford it. So if you can - go all out and have a blast! I know I would love to have plans on NYE

I'm in CT too! A fellow ct bride mentioned the society room in hartford, that would be an amazing venue for a NYE wedding. It's the sister venue to where I'm getting married, the riverhouse in haddam

I love NYE. I would be thrilled if I could go to one! Definitely host it well black tie though!I I could wear my sparkly dresses, which I have so many of. I LOVE LOVE LOVE NYE a wedding like that would be absolutely beautiful. But book early. I wanted a NYE wedding SO SO SO bad. The FH was not into that idea *bummer! NYE is my favorite holiday (but in my line of work NYE doesn't actually count as a holiday, only New Years Day. And I thought it was the same mostly for everyone.

I would love to go to a NYE wedding!