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nyc - July 2020 Brides!

Stephanie, on April 10, 2020 at 11:39 AM Posted in New York Planning 1 39
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For brides getting married in July in New York, how are you feeling? We were supposed to get married on May 8th and ended up having to postpone to July 17th. When we postponed in March, July felt so far away and I felt really good about being able to have our wedding but as things continue to get worse I'm starting to get nervous. I read some regions might go back to normalcy (which we didn't even know what normal will be) by June but New York has obviously been hit the hardest. I'm just so emotional about all of this but also trying to remain as optimistic as I can be. My heart is just breaking for all of us brides who have been planning our weddings for so long but also feeling guilty for being sad with everything going on in the world right now. Would love to get your thoughts!

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  • L
    Devoted July 2020
    Lindsay ·
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    I feel the same exact way!! I’m July 17 also and just wish we had more answers so we knew what to do! It’s such a conflicting feeling I’ve been struggling so much with feeling selfish about my wedding with everything going on but also grieving over it this is so hard but at the end of the day it is something we worked hard for and planned for a while. It’s supposed to be a happy time and that has been taken from us so I think we have a right to feel upset about it everybody dreams about their day. I hope we have some answers soon!! Best of luck!!
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  • L
    Devoted July 2020
    Lindsay ·
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    By the way I’m also in NY which makes this even harder 😩
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  • Stephanie
    Savvy May 2021
    Stephanie ·
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    Thank you for commenting and it feels good to know I'm not alone in what I'm feeling. I definitely do feel the happiness has been taken away in a time where we should be feeling excited and counting down. Let's just hope that things get better and that we will be able to have our wedding July 17th! Best of luck to you as well date twin. Smiley heart

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  • Stephanie
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    Stephanie ·
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    I know!! And that's why I wanted to start a NYC thread. As great as it's been seeing what other brides have to say who are in our predicament, every state has been affected by this pandemic in a different way. Where are you getting married? We are getting married in Long Island.

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  • Eshell
    Devoted July 2021
    Eshell ·
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    Hi dear ! Sorry to hear. Have you spoken to your venue ? I would include them in the discussion to help formulate a decision. I just listen to you all Mayor I’m just not sure if it will be okay by July. On a positive note of it is , will your GUEST feel comfortable attending a crowded wedding ?


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  • Stephanie
    Savvy May 2021
    Stephanie ·
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    Our venue actually thinks we should be ok by July. And I have thought about the fact that if it is, guests may not feel comfortable attending. My fiance and I will have to be ok knowing that we may not end up having all of our loved ones there which makes me extremely sad. Postponing until next year isn't an option since we are trying to start a family right away. This situation is so unpredictable so we just have to take it day by day and just hope for the best.

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  • L
    Devoted July 2020
    Lindsay ·
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    We’re getting married a little upstate New Windsor NY I’m from Rockland county
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  • Jennifer
    Dedicated July 2020
    Jennifer ·
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    Hi! Another July 17th Bride! I am sorry you are feeling the stress and sadness, as am I! It is so many emotions that some day I just wanna scream, but like you said at the same time I feel guilty just feeling down about myself, when the whole world is suffering. I think we have the right to feel sad over this loss and grieve all the time and effort we put into it. We still have sympathy for the world and whats going on, but hurt too! I don't live in NY, but I do live in South Florida, and it seems like our state is the last one to get on board with precautionary measures. That is the part that scares me the worst. We are still one of the top 5 states effected by the pandemic and when I research the peak here it worries me even more. I am trying to wait it out as long as we can, because this date is so important to us! I wish you all the best and send love your way!

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  • Stephanie
    Savvy May 2021
    Stephanie ·
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    Thank you for commenting! As much as I hate that we are stressed and sad, at least we have each other to openly express our frustrations to on this platform without judgement since we are all experiencing this together. It's hard for other people who aren't going through this to fully understand what we are feeling. We have a lot of family who live in South Florida who are supposed to be flying in for the wedding. I hope they just do a lockdown the way they are doing here in New York! Hang in there as best as you can. Knowing how important your date it, I hope it all works out for you and for all of us July brides! We must all share our wedding photos when our day does come! Wishing you all the best as well and sending love your way! Smiley heart

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  • S
    Beginner October 2020
    Sara ·
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    We are July 25th in New Rochelle, NY. Very uncertain as to what to do. We are planning to make a decision by May 15th.
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  • Jennifer
    Dedicated July 2020
    Jennifer ·
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    Thanks Stephanie! I agree, this is a great outlet with no judgement. We are all feeling this pain and it is nice to get advice or even other ideas from brides that have decided what they are doing next during this crisis. They finally did the stay at home order, but to be honest, nothing looks like it has changed, which is sad, because we all just want this is start getting better. I know it won't completely go away, but we just want a little control over the matter. I wish you nothing but the best and I really hope everything works out for us all! Smiley heart Stay safe and can't wait to see pictures, and hopefully soon! Smiley smile

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  • Jocelyn
    Just Said Yes July 2020
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    Hey, I’m also in NYC July 25. Every day I think I feel worse I don’t know what to do. I went from the world will be okay I think we can do it to how am I supposed to crunch months worth of getting ready in 2 months. And I don’t think it can happen. I think I want to cancel it all together
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  • MeetTheRobinsons
    Devoted June 2020
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    Stephanie I think we all are bit nervous; we rescheduled from May 9th to June 20th; the resort called us to inform us that they were closing down until May 21st and asked that we give them a coupe weeks after that date to settle down. Fingers crossed and keeping the faith for all of us. I think the most important thing is that we all stay home as asked of us until this thing flatline and die off. Best of luck and congratulations to you.

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  • MeetTheRobinsons
    Devoted June 2020
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    Jocelyn congratulations on your big day. Try to hang in there; yes it very frustrating but we all in this together.

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  • MeetTheRobinsons
    Devoted June 2020
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    Sara I know it's hard we all are in a wait and see moment. Praying for you guys in the NY area. Georgia got hit pretty hard too; we just have to sit still until this thing flatline. Congratulation on your big day. I cant wait to see everyone's pictures once this thing is over and all the weddings began to take place again.

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  • Besan
    Just Said Yes July 2020
    Besan ·
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    Hi guys,
    I’m July 5th in Chicago and my fiancé is a pilot. We only know his schedule the 25th of every month for the next month. He scheduled his days off for our wedding a year ago. If we can’t have our wedding July fifth, unfortunately there won’t be a wedding Smiley sad I feel selfish like the rest of you thinking about this but this is a big deal to us Smiley sad
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  • Daniella
    Savvy September 2020
    Daniella ·
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    Hi Stephanie- I completely get it. I am from NYC but having my wedding in Atlanta. 80% of my guests are from NYC, NJ area rest are from other states and outside the country. I heard today schools may not be open in NYC until September and jobs will be reopening the same time, Cuomo is making the final decision. Everything is still up in the air. It will have a bad effect on the economy once things open back up.. which will affect many guests all around. I'm disappointed in this all myself but I'm trying my best to stay calm though my wedding is in September. I just pray that my fiance and I and all our loved ones make it through this storm safely at this point.... best of luck and things will get better Smiley smile

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  • T
    Savvy October 2020
    Tammy ·
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    I'm in upstate and our wedding is scheduled for 6/27/2020. I'm thinking we are going to have to move it to a later date. Upstate hasn't hit the peak yet since we are about 2 weeks behind NYC. If they do open things up in time I think there are still going to be restrictions like not having a more than 50 or so in a group at one time.

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  • L
    Devoted July 2020
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    Hey again date twin! I keep getting more and more nervous everyday so now I’m starting to look at pushing it back to dates in the fall this is truly exhausting 😩
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  • Jennifer
    Dedicated July 2020
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    All this is extremely exhausting and devastating at the same time. Have you spoke with your venue on having a back up date if needed. Right now things are changing on the daily. Some days seem better then others and then others seem to get worse. I think April was suppose to be a very bad month with the COVID-19, especially in states with more cases. I would just focus on having a back up plan if needed so its a easy transition. I know it is not something any of us want to think about or even too, but having a go plan is better then not! I spoke with my venue and they are very understanding. What they let me do was select another open date for later this year and place my name on the date. If anyone else goes to them and is interested in the date they will contact me first and I will at that point have to make the final decision. I selected the back up date almost 3 weeks ago, so far no one has asked for that date and I am hoping no one does until I know I really have to decide on my own. I am really trying to hold off until May 17th to see where things are. I will have under 50 guests and no one over the age of 57 will be attending anyways with or without COVID-19, here in Florida. I want to see if the state starts opening things up slowly come next month and what the regulations are by then. If things are turning around and if regulations are being lifted even slowly in May, I will wait it out a few more weeks into June and make the ultimate decision of postponing our not. I know everyone has their own personal reasons for waiting or not waiting. I have spoke to most of the guests and everyone says they will be here as long as they can travel, so that is nice. I know others have guests that might not feel comfortable coming even if things get better in the next month or two. Just make sure you do lose focus on the bigger picture and that is what do you want out of your wedding besides getting married? Is there certain people that must be there? Do you want a huge wedding? Can you be ok with less guests? Things like that you need to really think about and process and like I said maybe have just a back up plan that is Plan B until you have to make the ultimate decision. I wish you the best and I am praying for all of us brides and the world as everyone struggles to find a way to move forward!

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