NWR: Sleeping in different beds at your parent's house!

I would just get hotel room, especially at your age & relationship status. You're an adult & can big girl decisions :]. It's not like you guys are random high school flings or something haha.

ETA: I haven't dealt with this, but I give you props for putting up with this. I wouldn't haha.

Yeah I'm like seriously.......I'm 30...30!!! She's making me feel like a 15 year old lol! Even when I was 26 (when we first moved in together), I was still wayyyy old enough.

FH has a brother that lives in my hometown, so we may just go over there.

Girl, even when we're married, I bet she'll still feel uncomfortable. I'm grown dang it.

Yes, me and my bf come from very strict italian families. This is just a no no in their eyes! We can try to explain that its 2013, but they dont care! lol. Honestly it wouldnt bother me if its just for a few days.

I would get a hotel room. it has nothing to do with insulting anyone and everything to do with you two being comfortable. I know i can't sleep well when FH is not next to me & your FH shouldn't be inconvenienced like that especially when you 2 are getting married soon.

I would respect your parents beliefs or get a hotel.

I've never been thru that but when we visited FH parents (first time meeting them) I had to spend a week at their house. surprisingly we were able to sleep in the same room but it was sooo awkward I would rather have slept in the office. it took awhile for my parents to be ok with me and FH to sleep in the same room.

Yeah, we've done this several times, but I think it feels more awkward now that we're 59 days away from getting married. My parents are definitely old school. Took them a minute to accept that we were living together...they won't even stay at our house when they come visit.

I'd never want to make them feel uncomfortable in their own home either, so yeah I may just stay elsewhere.

Me and my FH are going camping with my family this weekend, and we are creating the impression that we are using the room divider in our tent, for the sake of my family.

At FH's house we sleep in separate beds... One with a Dora comforter, one with a Cars comforter, but in the same room. Not because they don't want us sleeping together but those are the only beds. When we got engaged I said enough is enough & we sleep on an air mattress in the basement. It just creeps me out sleeping in a separate bed, makes us feel like brother & sister or something!! I'd just get a hotel, you're in your thirties now, your parents need to understand that!

I deal with this when I'm at my parents' house and I'm older than you. LOL... Honestly, it does not bother me. I respect their wishes and their house. They are very old school and religious, and I do as they ask in their home for a few days. It doesn't bother me. Do what you feel is best, but my parents have always been this way and I didn't expect anything to change the older I got. I appreciate still being able to spend time with them.

On the flip side, when they visit me, they ask to stay in a hotel because FH and I live together now due to the timing of our leases. Again, I respect their wishes.

Also, out of courtesy we never complained about it ( the sleeping situation at FH's house) but on this year's family vacation they were going to give our queen sized bed to his 5 year old niece so she can be near her parents... Putting us in twin beds right down the hall... I was like hell no. We are switching the beds out when we get there, we always have had a queen bed on vacation, not sure why we would want to be in separate beds now that we are engaged??? His mom was surprised that we cared, she was like oh we thought you'd like it! Bahahah my FH is 34 & we have been together 4 years, living together for 3

Same here!! I'm 31 and FH is 27. My mom was kinda if-y about us moving in together 3 months before the wedding but my dad didn't have a problem with it. Luckily I moved back to the same town as them and don't have to deal with. However, before i moved back, i visiited every weekend and i would stay at their house and say i was leaving Sunday evening but would stay with FH and leave Monday morning to go home. Sneaky sneaky!! lol

When i was pregnant fh and i had to live with my parents for 2 months while our house was under contract and waiting to settle. The first two weeks i had to stay in my old room and he had to stay in the guest room. It was definately awkward, especially because i was pregnant and the inevitable was already done lol. We werent engaged at the time but i mean, come on! My mom finally warmed up to it and it was fine from there.

Yes FH & I have to sleep in different rooms if we stay when we go visit his family(which is rarely)..It was a little awkward and uncomfortable being that was my first time staying at their house...On the bright side soon we'll be married && not have to do that anymore if we ever stay again

We had to sleep in separate rooms the first time we stayed with FH's parents. Once we had a child, they let us sleep in the same room when we visit. It didn't bother me either way. A night or two free of snoring is not a bad thing.

Totes

it's so weird.

Yeah, I'm with everyone else. Get a hotel room. I would even say to your parents, "[Fiance] and I live together and we sleep in the same room, in the same bed. I'm okay that you're not comfortable with that until we're married. However, since we have the option to stay somewhere else for the reunion, where we can sleep more comfortably."

I vote for hotel room : )

Have a good time!

OMG, hotel room for sure. You live together. They need to realize that sleeping in separate bedrooms at their house isn't going to change the fact THAT YOU LIVE TOGETHER. And you're totally adults. Weird.

My parents weren't ok with it until we got engaged. If we stay at my grandparents they still won't allow it. I don't see the big deal though. It's a few nights, you're there for a family reunion not a honeymoon. Maybe it's just cuz I live in a different province from my parents but I would want to spend as much time as I could with them and hang out with them before bed and have breakfast with them. I can survive a couple nights in a separate room