NWR: Baby Shower for 2nd child?

This is the first I'm hearing of this being a problem. Everyone I know has had a shower for each baby. I dont see showers as gift grabby. I see them as a way to get everyone together to celebrate. I alsways just get diapers either way.

Not a big fan of second baby showers, I didn't have one with my second child and I don't generally attend them but I will send a gift because I think all babeis should be celebrated but I won't go out of my way to attend the shower.

I would happily go to a second baby shower.....people are so nutso about this kind of crap when it really isn't that big of a deal.

with my cousin's second baby they just had a 'diaper shower' but i would have gone to a full blown baby shower either way.

It's funny, because I didn't have one for my first and had one for my second when he was about 5 months old. And they were 5 years apart so all my "big ticket" items had been donated. My shower was more of a meet and greet my son then a shower

3 of my best friends are married and have 2 children. We had a "sprinkle" for 2 of the 3 friends. They did not register and friends brought things like diapers, personalized gifts with the baby's name, or clothes. It was less of a shower and more of an excuse to get together and celebrate such an exciting time in a good friend's life, and a new life!!

If it's a different gender then I consider it OK to have a "sprinkle". If it offends you..don't go.

Where is a "sprinkle" done? I have never heard of that before.

One of my friend's had a second baby shower for her second that she threw herself. And it was to help her get started with some of the smaller stuff (clothes and diapers). However, it was only for very close friends and family. It wasn't anything like the first. I don't think it is tacky, as long as she throws it and doesn't expect a lot since, like mentioned by other people, she should already have the majority of the larger items.

^^ it is absolutely tacky to throw a shower for yourself, I'm sorry.

In my circle, baby showers are done for the first child only. I have never been to a shower for a second child or beyond, and I think that is appropriate given the parents already have the big ticket items.

And this reasoning of "every baby deserves to be celebrated" for baby showers is kind of ridiculous since the baby hasn't even been born yet. People can give the couple gifts and best wishes anytime they want. The baby will be celebrated when he/she is born and celebrated on the first birthday and every birthday and milestone after that. There will no shortage of celebrating the child. I don't think a lack of shower means the baby isn't being celebrated.

Only first child! My sister in law threw herself a baby shower for her second child and both of her`s were boys.

I think it is a bit tacky to have a shower for your second baby, but guests have the right to choose to attend or not. Since one doesn't host their own showers, it's still possible that someone would throw a shower for parents even if it was their second child-- and I wouldn't hold it against the parents or hosts in anyway. Have a fun get together that isn't a shower, instead.

From what I have learned you should never host your own (period - first or second child) or expect anyone else to host a second baby shower for you - that's when it is tacky. Now if someone else really wants to host a baby shower for you, then by all means let them. That's my feelings about it.

You never host your own shower for any event.

.... yeah, I'm not hosting my own. LOL

I checked her registry. It's very subtle, consisting of only a few extra clothes and supplies, mostly diapers. She did add a small swing for $70, which kinda concerns me, but I'm having a ball with this planning process. She's made a list of 13 invitees. I've got my work cut out for me here, with just one month until date. I don't think I'll specify what type of event it is--based upon her registry, she is looking for a shower. I am just concerned on her friend's opinion of the entire thing. She also didn't bother to invite her in-laws, in which I had expected.

It's definitely tacky to have another baby shower for a second baby, regardless of gender. Chances are, at the first shower, the mom-to-be received all/most of the big gifts--car seat, stroller, crib, changing-table, whatever else! Basically, the only thing that can be different with different gendered babies is the clothes people buy them. Chances are, the mom-to-be with her second baby will be showered with new baby clothes and whatnot from family members without the need of a second shower.

It may be a regional thing. My SIL had a "sprinkle" for her third child who was the first girl. I don't think anyone really blinked an eye at it.

In my area and among my circle, a second shower is considered tacky, but so is having a conventional wedding for a second marriage. But there are so many different opinions on this subject. I wouldn't worry too much about it. Even though some might think it's tacky, others will likely not have a second thought about it. I had a coworker recently who had 4 showers for her first born. I thought it was extremely gift grabby, and very awkward.

Haven't really thought of this. I guess I've really only seen a baby shower for a first child. I guess I could see a second if it's a different gender, however I don't think they should re-register for big items. I get gender related items and maybe new bottles, clothes, things they need that got lost/thrown out, but not the big items. That would be my opinion. I agree though if I was invited I would get a gift still and go enjoy time with friends.

I've seen it before but am not a fan at all! You get one shower, make it count people!!

I mean, a shower is to get stuff ready for the baby, right? I'm guessing if a couple is having a second child they should probably have their finances in order enough to buy that kind of stuff themselves. I could see throwing a party to celebrate a pregnancy, but as far as a baby shower goes I don't think I'd do it. That's just me, though.