Number of bridesmaids vs. Groomsmen

You don't need to have the same number of people. If you aren't close to the third person, then I wouldn't ask to her to be in your wedding. Your wedding party should only include people you are very close to. If you are that concerned, do you have siblings that you would want to be in your wedding? My bridesmaids/bride's man were my sister, my brother, my brother's wife, my husband's sister, and one of my friends who I met through my husband as she is married to one of his groomsmen. I would have had one of my other guy friends instead of the friend I met through my husband, but my guy friend was also engaged and buying a house so he didn't have the extra money to spend and I didn't want him to feel obligated to be in my wedding.

View Quoted Comment I am an only child, and no female cousins.

It might be a little odd but doable. Like you could have 2 bridesmaids each have a groomsman on each arm and the last pair up your tentative third bridesmaid with the last groomsman. Or if you don’t have a third bridesmaid you could have MOH walk with two groomsmen, one bridesmaid walk with one groomsman, and the last two groomsmen walk arm in arm (if you want to bring humor into it, also depending how close the groomsmen are).

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Does your husband have sisters that you are close to? I am very close to my husband's sister which is why I had her in my wedding.

View Quoted Comment I like those ideas!

View Quoted Comment Yes I have her as a bridesmaid, she also has been my friend for years! So that works out

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Oh good I wouldn't worry about having an even number. I also wouldn't pressure your fiance to cut people as groomsmen either. Another option would be to have the groomsmen already standing at the front and then have the bridesmaids walk down the aisle by themselves. I have seen this done before.

I am a huge believer in picking people you think will be in your life forever, and uneven sides are fine. You can have one groomsmen walk two bridesmaids down the aisle or however you need to do it

I’m not having an even number either..nothing wrong with a little asymmetry! I’m having the groomsmen enter in from right with the officiant to stand up and my bridesmaids will walk down the aisle alone.

I’m having 3 bridesmaids while my FH has 5 grooms people. I wasn’t about to ask anyone else just so sides could be even. I’m glad I didn’t. My girls are my 3 closest and I couldn’t imagine having anyone else up there. I have no worries that it won’t look fine on our wedding day.

I dont think its weird. i have 3 and 3 but if all 5 are important to him ull work it out

"My question is.. will the “ratio” look strange? Or like I have no friends compared to him?"

It will not look odd in any way, nor will anyone look at it and think anything at all, and certainly not to compare the number of friends you and your future spouse have. There are all kinds of reasons to have different numbers of friends; this is real life and real life doesn't end up "even."

You each choose the people you are closest to and go about your day.

If you don't like the idea of it looking so uneven, they don't need to stand there with you either. they can walk and then sit down

I don't think it's weird. I've seen the bride's male friends/brothers stand with the groom, making the party uneven. Looked fine to me.

Real relationships > aesthetics, always.

Uneven sides are totally fine: your side should always represent the people you couldn't see yourself getting married without.

I have 9 on my side, including my brother and male best friend, while my fiancé has 7--haven't had a second thought about it.

Your guests will not be overanalyzing your choice. Pick who is closest to you.

I was supposed to have 5 Bridesmaids and my fiancé 4. All of his seem okay moving forward but 3-4 out of 5 of mine now only maybe will come to our wedding due to Covid. So I could be a 1 and 4 ratio. Also I already paid for everything and everyone. Yes pick wisely! Agree with everyone else here in that.

Uneven sides are fine, as long as you have those you truly are close to by your side then that's all that matters. I have more people on my side than FH (7,5), but we were told it'll be ok. I just happen to have a lot of siblings vs him who just doesn't nor does he have too many friends.

Our wedding party was going to be one bridesmaid and four groomsmen. Pick the people most important to you to share the day with, and don't feel pressure to include someone that you aren't super close to just to make the numbers more even.

We've had to reschedule by a full year so I may opt to include 1-2 extra bridesmaids (they couldn't come on our original date) but haven't decided yet. I will probably ask them closer to 6-8 months out when I have a better idea of if our rescheduled date will even happen and how stressed I feel about coronavirus then.

Asymmetry isn't bad! We always think it'll look weird, but honestly everyone will be looking at you two getting married, not the bridal party. Keep the people closest to you and don't worry about the numbers.