I had wine night with my now MOH and at some point in the night, we literally chose and added my hypothetical wedding date in my calendar LOL. When I got home, I jokingly told my fiancé and the next weekend, he proposed - and that's the date we stuck with! I think it's way more common (and normal) to totally discuss marriage and wedding plans before you're formally engaged. Not weird at all!
I have been planning my wedding since i was 16 years old. (i am now 33 years old) didn't have a boyfriend til i was 30, and i had already had our wedding month picked out years ago... prior to the finance ... so no, you are not weird/silly, and no you are not formally engaged until he officially asks you... we dated 2.5 years, talked about marriage and kids prior to the first date, got engaged dec 21, 2020, and are getting married may 8 2021.. we are both looking forward to finally being married!!
Hahaha us. When he mentioned marriage (we are middle aged and were thinking of down the road retirement planning) I said “ok I meed two things - a wedding and a ring!” We have the venue booked but no announcement yet. He has plans for a romantic engagement. I have told my sister and BFF.
On The Knot's wedding planning "to-do" list, "start planning with The Knot" actually is listed before "get engaged."
Just a fun bit of trivia for you.
I think it's quite normal. I suspect most formal proposals are not true surprises - their exact timing may be, but I feel most couples discuss life plans and marriage in advance and so they know that they are going to get engaged at some point. And I think that most people, women especially, start thinking about the wedding after serious discussions of marriage come up.
My fiancé and i had been talking about wedding and marriage and kids way before we were engaged.
funny enough, i was frustrated with my fiancé when he proposed to me. we had gotten into an argument earlier about something dumb and then went to go see cursed child... and then he proposed after the show when we were going to bed. lol
I still said yes obviously... and he totally surprised me even though we were talking about everything and planning. lol
Not everyone has the typical proposal. And there’s nothing wrong with that. But if you guys are committed enough to start planning a wedding and pick a date… You’re definitely engaged at that point LOL so congrats!🎉🎊🍾
Honestly we did this. We didn't consider ourselves engaged until he got down on one knee with a ring. We wanted to get married quickly so I bought a dress, booked a venue, etc. before hand and didn't tell anyone but close family. It made our engagement more special and I don't see anything wrong with it, even if you don't have a traditional engagement. My fiancé's parents also agreed to get married before hand and he officially proposed to her the night she got back from her wedding shower!