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Not wanting the groom/mother's dance? Rude or acceptable?

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Dianna, on October 19, 2016 at 2:27 AM

My FH has a full full full family. Mom, dad, sister, grandmas, aunts, uncles, paw-paw, cousins, etc.. the full picture! Me however... I have my mom. we don't have the greatest relationship either but that's just how it is and that's all i've got. No daddy daughter dances, none of that happening. So...

My FH has a full full full family. Mom, dad, sister, grandmas, aunts, uncles, paw-paw, cousins, etc.. the full picture!

Me however... I have my mom. we don't have the greatest relationship either but that's just how it is and that's all i've got. No daddy daughter dances, none of that happening.

So for the family dances, i was thinking of just not doing them? He can still totally dance with his parents, he still totally will- but just not make a big event out of it.

I don't want to be lonely-like on my wedding day, or have anyone be like "aw, poor bride.."

I'm not sure if this is rude of me, or something that could be accepted?

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MrsMelissaP · on October 19, 2016 at 10:59 AM
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I'm having my father/daughter dance as a request from my dad. I prefer to skip it. My FH is not having a dance with his mom because he hates dancing. I think its a preference thing so don't tell him he cant do it because you don't have a full family.
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Carly · on October 19, 2016 at 11:01 AM
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Yeah sass there was just a thread about this and it's still rude AF.
I wouldn't even ask my FMIL if she cared to have the dance or not. he's her son!! of course she wants to spend that 4 minutes with him on the dance floor.
you can't let them have 4 minutes together?
it's just me and my mom. my uncle is walking me down the aisle. idk who will be dancing with who, for me, but the thought of taking this moment away from them has not crossed my mind, once.
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mimitrue · on October 19, 2016 at 11:12 AM
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I would ask his mother too..i.t's not fair of you to take that experience away from your FH and mom, who has probably been waiting for this her whole life. As a mother of a son now, I'd be hurt if I had to miss out on that dance I've been waiting so long for.
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Ashley · on October 19, 2016 at 5:53 PM
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I think that's really selfish of you. It's his day as well. You could do a dance with your mother as well, but don't take away that special moment from his mother and him. I would feel extremely disrespected if the woman my son was marrying didn't want me to have my dance with him. Wow.
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