Not Officially Engaged Yet...but

You absolutely do not need a "proposal" to be engaged. If that were true, it would mean I'm not engaged yet--and we got married almost two months ago! You don't need a ring, either. Some people choose not to do rings at all.

What you DO need is a very clear conversation about concrete plans. Make sure you are on the same page. You should be able to communicate clearly with your partner. "Hey ___, we have been talking a lot about a December wedding. Should we start making concrete steps to move forward with that?" Then if he says yes, start in on that process *together.*

Side note: I totally agree with everyone who said that planning a wedding for this December would be either impossible or highly stressful at this point.

I started "planning" before we were officially engaged, and it was actually really helpful to start thinking about ideas and researching. I would have been really overwhelmed if I hadn't, and I haven't felt any of the wedding planning stress people talk about. Two things though:

1. Don't contact vendors or put down money for anything until it's official.

2. I don't think planning a December wedding at this point is realistic. Plan for next year.

Partner 1: Wanna get married? Like for realsies?

Partner 2: Yea. Let's book a venue and set a date.

If you had a conversation like that, congrats. You're engaged. If you didn't, you're putting the cart before the horse.

If you're considering getting married in December, then honey, you're engaged. Ring or not.

DH proposed the day we put a deposit down on our venue. We had a date set already and he had the ring. Be sure that he's committed to getting married before you plan anything