Not losing weight before the wedding...

Nope. There's enough pressure in my life without adding weight loss pressure to it!! I figure even if I don't love the way I look, FH does! He loves me! He asked me to marry him last year, when I was actually 20 lbs heavier than I am now!! So, he's got not problem with the way I look, why should I?

I am trying to be healthier, just for me, not so I can fit into a dress that's too small. That's just dumb. I bought my dress in the correct size. It only needs a tiny bit of alteration, and it will be perfect. So, no, I have no plans t lose weight "for the wedding." Dumb.

Yes!!! Thank you for this! I hate the expectation that women who are getting married need to lose weight. I bought a dress to fit me not some idealized version of me.

I may try to tone but honestly I haven’t changed my lifestyle much. I eat the same and have been the same level of activity. My fh loves the way I look and that gives me confidence.

I didnt plan on losing weight and haven't. I bought my dress 11 months before my date, in my correct size also. My goal during the past 11 months was to not gain or lose any weight. Lol

Amen sister. Luckily my man loves me the way I am. Someone asked if I'm going to get a fake tan, as I'm naturally very fair. I said no because I want to look like ME

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Exactly! Well said,

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Yes yes yes! Death to diet culture!

I’m in recovery from anorexia so you’re not alone in the “not losing weight for the wedding” camp lol

I'm not losing weight for the wedding (I'm already small and kind of underweight in a way), but I am trying to motivate myself to get in-shape for the wedding. People always question me as to why I'd want to work out since I'm thin-- but I have no muscles, no strength, no endurance and running from the coffee bar at my job to my desk to answer the phone when it rings makes me winded. I have a company-paid gym membership that I haven't used yet because I'm scared since I don't know how to work out or anything.

My FH on the other hand, is trying to lose weight for the wedding because he's been about 20 lbs overweight since we started dating (I call it his "I'm happy and stable and not stressed about my life anymore weight" but he doesn't like it). I love him no matter what, but he wants to look and feel his best when we get married, since the weight has caused him some indigestion/heartburn problems in the last handful of months.

I get this even though I am on a journey to lose weight. I was having some health issues though and I had to lose the weight and after a while it just became a habit to lose it and just get to where I need to be. Acid issues are the worrrrsst! Any way it’s annoying hearing anything about your weight. Even if it’s someone close, I get it’s concern or maybe a compliment, but it can get a bit weird and slightly annoying. Honestly my co workers whom I am not even close with keep telling me “don’t lose anymore weight” and one of them even told me “if you keep losing. All that weight your head is going to be bigger than your body” it’s like you can’t win either way being on a diet or not. Sorry that you are getting questioned about dieting and such. You seem very confident!

I am fat. I will be a fat bride. And while I am not necessarily happy with that, I know going on an unhealthy diet and exercise binge is not going to be any help for me mentally or physically. I do not lose weight easily for a variety of reasons, and ours isn't a terribly long engagement so I know trying specifically for the wedding would only set myself up for heartbreak. But I think all the pressure for brides to lose weight is unhealthy, and I am certainly glad no one has asked me if I plan to lose weight.

It’s yours and you FH’s wedding, as long as you’re happy and comfortable in your skin and you enjoy your day it’s a win not matter what other people think

I was and I did really good I lost about 10 pounds but then I got pregnant so I stopped trying I just made sure not to gain alot of unnecessary weight like the term "eating for 2" my dress still fits its just snug in my belly area. I had a corset placed in to help allow room in the belly so I'm not uncomfortable but otherwise I didn't care to lose weight anymore.🤷‍♀️

I’d like to get fitter, and start exercising again, but I don’t have any weight to lose and I’m not stressing myself out about getting toned. I don’t see the reason behind stressing yourself out more during an already stressful time. 🤷‍♀️

I totally can relate I’m plus size and my family assumed I wanted to try to loose as much weight as possible and “had plenty of time before the wedding”. That’s where they were wrong I am comfortable in my skin and the way I am! I’m confident and my fiancé loves me the way I am. I have nothing against anyone trying to loose weight on their big day if that is what is going to make them feel beautiful, but I also don’t think it’s nice for ppl to assume you want or should loose weight so “your dress fits you better” is what some of my family said. Nope I fit into my dress perfectly and will look amazing on my big day sorry not sorry!

I did not, and I refused to even contemplate it for health reasons. I'm also very comfortable in my skin - but I also concede that I'm naturally tiny, and our ridiculous societal standards reinforce my comfort.

I got a sample size dress and had to have it taken in significantly, so losing weight would have been catastrophic for both my health and my finances.

It bothers me that people think they have to change for their wedding day - doesn't their future spouse love them as they are?

If the changes are motivated for healthier reasons - lifestyle change, prompted by nutrition needs - than that makes more sense. But to fit into one dress for a day that is supposed to represent loving each other as you already are? No, that makes me sad.

I actually needed to gain some weight. My measurements were exact when we ordered the dress but a few months before alterations, it was a little big.

Me me me!!! It's is far too unreasonable to plan on being a certain size (even if your weight goes down, who's to say your waist will go down too). In addition, binge dieting is so unhealthy! I support decisions to promote healthier lifestyles, but most of these wedding diets are nothing but binge diets!

I agree 100% with your frustration! I don't understand why anyone "needs" to look like a completely different person on his/her wedding day. Your future spouse wants to get married to you and loves you the way you are already!

SAME!!!! Omg I hate that BS. Girls we are loved and they (or in my case I) popped the question HOW we looked then. They didn't expect us to go on this crazy weight loss bandwagon and IF they did well they can forget the whole thing.

I started losing weight before I popped the question, for my own health reasons. I do NOT plan on being a size 5 in a year. I plan on being the woman I am today as I am a year in the future.