NOT kissing at the reception

There have been things I've seen some at weddings. Like a note on the table that said if you want the bride and groom to kiss you have to sing a love song, etc. It's a thought or you could just say no.

We had one guest that clinked her glass a few times. We ignored her. The last time she did it, I wasn't even in the room. All I heard was another guest yell at her to shut up; no more clinking after that.

@FutureMrsPribula

The big deal is that my fiance has an anxiety disorder that will make this a very uncomfortable experience. It's not the physical act of kissing that we don't like, it's having all eyes on us during what we consider an intimate moment. And it might not seem like a big deal to you, but I'm trying to look out for my FH on a day that will already be fairly anxiety-provoking for him, that he's only doing because he loves me and knows that having a celebration with our families is something that matters to me.

What are you guys doing for a first kiss?

I mean, we're kissing, but that's sort of one-and-done. I would just like to avoid the whole kissing on command for the entertainment of others thing.

My FH has the same issues, he's super shy and introverted, kissing in public always makes him uncomfortable (which is fine by me! I love him the way he is). His family is the one that always does the glass clinking though, so I know he is going to just tell them all to shut up if they try.

I would go with others advice and just ignore it, or if it becomes an issue - appease the crowd and do it once, then the next time it happens pass it off to someone else. I've seen this done, after you guys do the kiss once you just say "nope this time it's so and so's turn". People always stop after that starts to happen.

ETA: words are really hard for me today.

I am 99% sure that my FMIL will do this, and probably more than once depending on how much she has to drink. I'll have to broach the topic with FH, as it seems so awkward to me.

Have plastic glassware?

Just ignore the clinks, guests will get the hint!

@Rachael this is a kiss on my command thing, and goes on every 5 mins, even while you are trying to enjoy your meal, talk with your guests, do a shot at the bar, dance on the dance floor. I have seen a bride on one side of the room and groom on the other and they have to stop what they are doing and find each other. It's annoying AF and can be somewhat rude. Sorry aunt Sally that I have to stop our conversation because Uncle Tom is clicking his glass, or even better, clinking the vase of the centerpiece

At my reception, the DJ announced that the only way we would "kiss on demand" is if someone came up and sang a song about kissing. No one wanted to be "that person" so that stopped any issues (but DH and I are affectionate so there was no problem with people seeing us kiss, I just did want to have to kiss because someone else wanted us to kiss)

I think there is a huge difference between sharing a tender moment and kissing your spouse vs feeling obligated to do it as a form of entertainment for wedding guests. I imagine me and FH will share lots of smooches throughout the night because we are overwhelmed with love and joy, but it won't be because we are told/expected to do so.

I like the song thing. In my family pretty much guarantees it won't happen lol.

@TheBlindBride, that is what my DJ mentioned at our first meeting. My fiancé and I had never heard of doing that before and found it hilarious. Although this tradition does not bother me, we may have to go with it just because we thought it was funny.

Just ignore it and people will stop. Maybe also let your DJ know so as soon as the clinking starts he/she can create a distraction.

I'm team ignore it. I attended a wedding where the couple was very conservative and wouldn't kiss in front of their families so each time someone clicked their glass they hugged instead. People got the hint after 5 times but it was also a very large wedding (900 ppl) so it's possible most people didn't notice the couple wasn't kissing the first 4 times.

I didn't know about the clinking the glasses thing until my sisters in laws were doing it at her wedding a few years ago. It was driving my sister crazy. The guests just wouldn't stop, so even if they were across the reception from each other they would have to stop talking to whoever they were talking to and go find each other.

Her in laws are awesome, so we invited them but I've had anxiety over the clinking glasses thing lol. I like the song idea or the list of couples names!