NOT kissing at the reception

No one did it at our wedding. But, if someone had, I probably would've just looked at them and said "no." But, I'm pretty feisty.

You can have someone announce it at the beginning. I have been to several receptions where it was announced

Word of mouth? I didn't know that this was still something people did, but I guess you could have people mention it and if people start clinking anyway @Swin's approach sounds pretty solid.

Just don't kiss. People will get the idea. I had never even heard of that tradition until I came to Wedding Wire!

Just ignore it.

I also wasn't fully aware of the tradition. I thought it was just for signalling a toast, so if we had that our wedding, I'd just be sitting there searching for whoever's making a speech.

The only person who tried to do this at our wedding was my dad, and I glared at him until he stopped

I would just ignore it.

Thanks for the advice guys!

Unfortunately there are people on my dad's side of the family who are big "teasers" and who think this sort of thing is hilarious, I've seen them do it mercilessly at family weddings in the past. And since my fiance and I live in another state, they don't know him well enough to know that this would make him supremely uncomfortable.

I'll definitely talk to the DJ and see if he has any ideas, and failing that, I'll just do what other people have suggested and ignore/glare.

This is totally a thing here, I haven't been to a wedding where it wasn't done, and I hate it. The last wedding we went to people did it during the meal!! I plan on ignoring it the first time and if people continue I will say something.

I had never heard of this until I went to FH's sister's wedding. And his mom was the one who kept starting the clinking - I'm talking like 6 times during dinner.

My venue does not allow beverages in glass containers at all, so we lucked out that way. I also plan to spread by word of mouth that we do not want this to happen.

My family is unfortunately very into this and have been warned that it's not happening. I have made it know that any clanging will be ignored, no exceptions. If it becomes an issue I'll talk to the DJ about making an announcement however my thought is that people will give up when what they want to happen never happens.

A DOC's idea for this issue was to have a cute little sign made up (chalkboard, fan style, really anything) that had "Nope!" and a in a playful font to hold up if the clinking got out of hand during dinner.

Me, I'm just going to stick to using my "I teach high school so cut it out" look that can quiet a room of hormonal teens in no time flat, but it's a thought!

If it's a thing in your family, I would suggest word of mouth. Could your dad maybe mention it to his family, and let them know how uncomfortable it would make you and FH?

I plan on ignoring it if anyone tries because I think its dumb. People will certainly get the evil eye from me if the try it.

I'm really not judging, I promise, I just literally can't understand what is wrong with kissing your new husband in front of your wedding guests? Didn't you just kiss in front of them at the ceremony? Didn't you invite them all there to look at you and honor your love and togetherness all night? I just feel like it is a night where someone would use any excuse to smooch their new spouse!

I don't think this is something to worry about. Just don't react.

At my sister's wedding the DJ had a list of couples' names, so he'd call on one of those couples to kiss every time guests clinked their glasses. People got really into it.

@Rachael The most PDA I do in public with FH is hand holding. To me, kissing and hugging is something he and I share together, privately. PDA makes me feel awkward when I witness or someone sees FH and I hugging or being loving with each other. I'm aware it's something couples do. I'm aware that I'll have to kiss him in front of our guests but it makes me tense because of how awkward I feel about it all. It's a huge part of the reason why we decided to omit a garter toss from the evening. It's personal preference and a lot of anxiety thrown in but it is what it is.

Gez, I don't even see what the big deal is.