Not inviting my dad's GF.

Maybe she won't even be dating him by then... In the meantime, relax and don't worry about it. As it gets closer, if they're still together, don't accept help from him or you'll have to include her. And don't discuss it around her. I feel bad for you but it's your day.

There is no delicate way to tell your father his girlfriend cannot attend the ceremony or reception. The only thing you can do is tell him now.

I think only in the most extreme cases would it be acceptable not to invite this person, like if she has assaulted other family members in the past. Can you give us an idea of why you are uncomfortable with her presence?

You have almost a year to decide this, and i hate to be the one to tell you but if they are still seeing each other, she has to be invited.

Well, my sister and I have a terrible history with this woman. She's extremely hostile. She threatened my sisters life many years ago. It's a very long and unhappy past that I certainly don't need the memories of on my wedding day.

I live far away from my family and I thought it would be a good idea to go "back home". Now I don't even know....

Be prepared your dad may not come, either. Then, call and say, "Dad, I really want you to be at my wedding in a couple months and (not 'but'-- 'but' says, "What I just said was a lie. What comes next is the truth-- go for and) I really don't want GF there, so she won't be invited. I hope you'll come anyway, and I'll understand if you don't."

How's your relationship with your dad? If she's that awful, I doubt she'd let your dad come without her. This could be a huge relationship-killer between you and your dad. I think you might want to think about the repercussions beyond just your wedding.

In general, you have to invite people's significant others. I think it's fine to not if she's done something like physically attack or threaten you or your FH, but in most circumstances you have to invite them.

My daughter is in the same bind with an uncle's (my brother) gf. Started an issue with me and caused drama (I loathe drama) and now half the family isn't talking to the other half. I've told her that when she gets married, it is totally up to her who to invite, and I will play well in the sandbox. She says he likely won't be invited. In fact, she's thinking of having a micro-wedding of just about 20 people.

Have you considered doing an intimate wedding?

If she's that hostile and threatened your sister, you don't want her there disturbing your peace of mind. You might just need to talk to your dad, and remind him of her actions, which have consequences, one being that she is not invited to your wedding, but you do want him to be there. And then just be prepared that he will not attend, because she sounds like a very controlling and manipulative woman. And then - if he doesn't attend, let it go. Don't let her control your emotions.

Best wishes to you.

I smell a troll. One star, ring avatar, and suspicious story....hmmm.

When I told my father that his girlfriend (the homewrecker) was not invited to my small wedding (because I would not want my mom to be uncomfortable), he declined to attend. Fine with me.

If she's that bad, maybe they won't be together when your wedding rolls around. You need to work on not letting this stress you out in the early stages of planning your wedding.

We told my FBIL his wife couldn't attend (she decided that being 5 months pregnant would be a good time to pick up heroine again) and neither of them will be coming now. Be prepared for dad to back out, but stand up for what you believe is right.

Thanks guys. This really helped get my emotions on track at least.

I hate family drama. I never thought growing up that I'd have a broken family. Oh well. I'm just glad I was able to share my feelings about my situation.

I'll cross that bridge when I get to it, and hopefully be mentally prepared for the consequences.

I am in a somewhat similar situation. I have an aunt (mother's sister) who has intentionally caused problems for my sister (MOH), my FH, and myself over the past few years. I made it clear early on that she would not be invited, and received a lot of push back initially. After a month or so, the dust settled and it hasn't been brought up since. I would actually tell you to have the conversation with your dad now so you aren't stressing about how it will go. Granted, my mother's sister is a bit different than a parent's significant other, but I know how you feel. Good luck! xoxo

My moms husband will not be invited. He's a shitty person and I fear my grandfather would strangle him on sight thus ruining my wedding day. It goes against etiquette but I really don't care.

My fathers girlfriend isn't coming either....

She's a homewrecker, and it took a lot just to begin mending the relationship with my father... The wounds are still fresh, and it would only cause awkward un-needed tension at what is supposed to be our happy day.

No one (including my father) has a problem with it except her, but I really could care less.. lol. he can (and probably will) have many more relationships.... but he only has 2 daughters. (me, and my sister/MOH)

Its your day. just be prepared for different reactions.

My mom's husband wasn't invited to my wedding. Luckily for me, my mom expected this and never made a fuss about it. She came without him no problem.

Hopefully your dad will be able to see your side of it, and will still attend despite not being able to bring his GF.