Not invited?

I would have your FH reach out and ask because it would be really rude for them not to invite you both as a social unit.

Just ask.. I placed only the person we knew for our wedding and many have responded with their wife's name added or a plus one. It wasn't my intent to not have anyone's wife or love one come without them.. Just put person we knew on it

It is definitely rude for them to not invite you. Perhaps, since you said you guys aren't that close with them, it was an honest mistake. I'd have your FH reach out. If you aren't invited, I would suggest your FH not attend, either.

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For anyone lurking, you generally want to include the person's significant other on the invitation, whether they're dating, engaged, or married. If you aren't sure if they have one or what their name is, ask.

If someone is truly single, however, you don't need to give them a plus one.

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This is what I'm hoping. He's going to text him tonight and see if it was a mistake. I was a little sad when I got it because out of the two of us I'm the one who LOVES weddings and FH is not a huge fan.

Yeah, definitely ask. It is super rude to invite one person in a relationship and not the other.

Ask. It would be rude if they wasn't allowing signification other. Sometime that people choice.

I think some people genuinely don't follow +1 etiquette when it comes to weddings. My fiance's friend (who had met me several times) got married 2 years ago and I wasn't invited. We had been dating for 2 years at that point. All of our friends were really surprised, but I don't think anyone realized how rude it was because no one in our friend group has gotten married yet. I'm honestly still offended and don't want to invite them to our wedding but I'm going to haha but ever since then I feel like in cases like this its possible you are not invited and they just don't understand the etiquette. I would probably have your fiance reach out though.

*Wanted to add that this may be possible especially because they haven't met you. My fiance didn't realize we had to invite some our friends SO's since we didn't know them, because he just genuinely didn't know how those things work.

Its clear that you aren't invited. I would sit this one out, it may just be their budget. Also I think its rude for people to try to insert themselves into the big day when they don't know the person. One of my fiances friends contacted us saying he wanted to bring his "wife" but he isn't even married, I felt even asking for the additional person was rude.

Yeah definitely ask. He might not have realized.

Definitely ask. There's a big possibility you aren't invited, but you'll never know for sure unless you ask. And maybe if you're FH asks and you originally weren't invited, maybe the friend will make an exception and allow you to come anyway. A lot of people don't realize how rude it is not to invite couples as a social unit (regardless if you know the SO or not..)

He may not know the proper ettiqutte or is too embarrassed to admit he forgot your name. Or he just invited your FH. It never hurts to ask!

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Find out what’s going on. If they say you were left off on purpose due to what ever reason (space, budget, don’t like your hair), you should both pass. No way my fiancé is going to a wedding without me.

View Quoted Comment Agree with this for sure. There's no reason your FH should attend a wedding without you and I'm sure he wouldn't even want to. I know mine wouldn't want to go without me.

View Quoted Comment It is for me, especially if I don’t know the spouse but that’s just me.

View Quoted Comment Regardless of whether you know the spouse or not, they should still be invited. You don't split up social units. Thats basic etiquette. If your budget doesn't account for significant others, your guest list is too big.

I’m actually intrigued by this post & want to know the outcome .. that way I know exactly what to write on invites to make it clear lol

Tynell and Cynthia's Wedding what you did was extremely rude. Pick up any etiquette book and it will tell you that couples should be invited together. It makes no difference if they're married, dating, engaged, whatever. If they're in a relationship, they get an invite together.

Oh well