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Not invited to friend's wedding, but she is coming to mine. What is the gift etiquette?

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JRA12216, on November 3, 2016 at 11:01 AM

It really isn't a big deal that I am not invited to her wedding, as I know the lists need to be cut where they need to be cut. She is a former co-worker who my FH and I hung out with quite a bit at the beginning of our relationship, and we have stayed in touch over the years, but it's hard to hang out as much as we did when we were younger due to careers, living in different areas etc. I invited her to my wedding, and she is coming. My question is... is it weird that I send her a wedding gift even though I am not invited to her wedding? I am super happy for her and want to send something, but I just am not sure if it will be weird. Thoughts?

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SoontobeMrs. · on November 3, 2016 at 4:33 PM
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It shows how genuine you are and how much you care for this person, so to answer your question, it is not weird but I'm pretty sure she will regret not inviting you to her wedding, even if you send the gift before or after the wedding, which is not your problem because then that is her guilt
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Brandi · on November 3, 2016 at 4:36 PM
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I don't think that's a bad idea. If that's what you want to do go for it. I have done that before with a baby shower.
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Miami2NorthernVA · on November 3, 2016 at 5:05 PM
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I think everyone loves receiving gifts, so she will appreciate it.

A friend of mine eloped and I sent him a $100 gift card. If you want to give a gift you always can. I don't mind not being invited to weddings either because I think they are too expensive. In fact I prefer it because then I feel like I need to give very large gifts to cover my plate.
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