Not given a bridal shower

Im doing a bridal luncheon, and Im going to plan it - somewhere casual and cheap! Like pizza or mexican. I dont think you should do your own shower, though, because you would be asking your friends directly for gifts. Because showers are to shower the bride with gifts. Im going to invite my girls to go for a caribou and a pedicure and then join me for lunch. No presents just food, friends, drinks and fun.

I'm not familiar with the lingo like FSIL & FH LOL

I can imagine it must difficult to walk on eggshells but it does sound like your handling it well... I

Really appreciate everyone's feedback!

It's amazing how the little things can make someone's day!

I love the recipe luncheon idea and will try to plan it! I honestly just wanted to be able to spend time with family and friends and celebrate the excitement! I'm Not at all about the gifts!

How special would a recipe book made from all the compiled recipes given by loved ones! <3

Thank you everyone!

My mom said she would throw me a bridal shower and an engagement party, and she never did. I was ok with that, no big deal. I didn't have a bridal party, one of my girlfriends felt bad I wasn't going to have a bachlorette party, so she threw one together. There was only three of us, we went to dinner, then to my local bar where I got super drunk and my DH had to come take me home. Nothing big. Maybe something like that is an option?

Double Post. Here is a crazy cat picture instead.

The acronyms can be overwhelming!

FSIL/FBIL - Future Sister/Brother-in-law

FMIL/FFIL - Future Mother/Father-in-law

FH/FW/FS - Future Husband/Wife/Spouse

MOH - Maid/Matron of Honor

BM - Bridesmaid OR Best Man

GM - Groomsmen

OOT -Out of Town (guest)

Hope that helps. I'm truly wishing you luck and love.

I'm kind of in the same boat. My mom is going out of town to Colombia the day of my shower and purchased her tickets after she already knew all the details. I even tried to persuade her to leave after my shower but she outright told me she rather go at that time of the month because that's when all the festivals are over there. I'm pretty bummed out about especially since it doesn't seem like she's really that interested in my wedding and being there for me. But at least I have a man that cares about me indefinitely and that I'll soon be married to.

You can't really plan your own shower, and newsflash; technically, it shouldn't be your mom either.

I like Mrs. Cheapskate's idea for a celebratory luncheon, but at the end of the day, you're marrying the guy you love, toasters or not.

Have you *asked* your mom or bridesmaids to go dress shopping with you? To throw a shower? To throw a bachelorette night?

As a fun person, I would not mind one... However, my friends in Canada aren't showing any signs of planning one; and our wedding is a destination wedding. My BMs are from London and Spain. I know they're planning something but i don't think it will be any more than the robes we'll all be wearing to get ready for the day....

Its not bothering me but again, I understand that has to be done by your BMs or close friends.

Be polite enough to ask for help with dress shopping and other planning stuff... and you'll be fine.

Did I mention I've done planning and everything alone...? I have fun doing it {very exhausting too} but yes, it really makes me feel very alone through the process. I have my final dress fitting tomorrow and have no one to come with me. The first two times was with FH (what can I do?) *It sucks*

Not everyone has a bridal shower. In fact, I was shocked about how many celebrations you do with the wedding (engagement party, bridal shower, rehearsal dinner, bachelorette party). Spending on the wedding is enough for me lol! So don't feel bad It does feel nice to be celebrated but not everyone gets it. Enjoy your wedding to the max!

I'm doing everything myself too. I know how you feel. Have a chat with a close friend or mom and see what they think after you express your desire to have a shower.

I'm not getting a shower either, and I don't expect one from my girls because I know they're all tight with money, and one is overseas. I'm just happy that my MOH planned a bachelorette weekend for me. It will give us all a nice break from reality.

I feel your pain! When I got married the first time my mom was not supportive at all! Not only did I not get a bridal shower she also told all of our family not to show up because we wouldn't last! We sent out 200 wedding invites and we had about 30 people show up. I had to make all the food myself (our reception was in the public park, it's all we could afford), I had no help with any of the finance portion of the wedding, and then to top it off my wedding gift was her whispering in my ear, "I hope your happy because you won't last more than a year!" My ex-husband was Hispanic and she was very much against that, not to mention I was pregnant and just out of high school. We did last 19 year, but then things fell apart. My best suggestion to you is to hold your head up and rise above your mom's behavior. Be proud of what you do have and don't dwell on what you don't have. A bridal shower isn't everything. I'm not having one for this marriage either. If you REALLY want one do you have a close friend, co-workers, or future in-laws who might be willing to throw a party for you?

No he doesn't have any family, my family loves him tho! I'm not having a bachelorette party either! I don't have many friends and no real close friends...I tried to talk to My sister and tell her how I feel but that didn't work out so well

And now she's not apart of wedding at all

Honestly if I could do it all over again I would just do a destination wedding but this far in the game we have too much money wrapped up to change it! I just feel sad sometime Bescuse it's not U can go back and redo do things! Or do it differnt next time.

Did you post in the virtual shower sticky? WW has shown people lots of love.

Also, if you're unsure of the abbreviations, etc, check out the other stickies! They're there to help out newcomers like yourself.

I don't kno what a sticky is! Lol I just posted on here for first time today! Wish I had known about this forums a while ago!

I know how you feel, Trisha O. I'm not having a bachlorette or a shower. I had a falling out with the girl who was my maid of honor and now she's not in the wedding. I have two bridesmaids but as much as I love them, they are my fiances sisters in law so they are more family then friends. I don't have any really close girlfriends so I feel a little down and kind of wish we weren't having a big wedding. If you really want a get together, I suggest to plan a luncheon or something and keep the word shower out of it. Just know you're not alone!

@ Mrs T I had a falling out with my best friend of 20years about three years ago I think the wedding planning makes it hard not to miss her and wish she was here to plan with me

It is nice knowing I'm not alone tho! Thank u!

And very encouraging! Im def going to try to do the recipie luncheon!

Stickies are the posts that always stay on the board (easier to see on an actual computer). They have the orangeish background.

@Trisha, I feel ya, totally relate with the DW idea... I too, had to move our wedding due to lack of help around me. All thanks to WW forums. I posted for the first time about my frustration with getting help and also the overall cost building up beyond capability..., and my WW family suggested I make it a DW(destination wedding). We did and its been peaceful and hopeful with a lot of love and support. I've been there... Also didn't know jack about the WW forums... took me a long while to get into it and I only wished I knew a lot about WW much earlier....