Not given a bridal shower

They are fun and exciting, but you can't plan or throw one for yourself....basically, you're just going to have to suck it up and deal with it. Lots of people end up not having a shower and its not the end of the world.

Do you have any bridesmaids that may be planning a shower? Typically parents of the bride/groom don't throw the showers anyways.

I'm sorry that you're feeling lonely during this process Just remember, as long as you end up married on your wedding day, the planning was a success!

I didn't get a shower either, but I didn't really want one. They aren't necessary or required - it's personal preference. I'd suggest talking to your mom about how you're feeling and find out why she hasn't set one up if that's what you want.

Not everybody has a bridal shower. My bridesmaids are all far off. Don't sweat the small stuff. Enjoy the fact that you're getting married to an amazing person, instead!

I am not having a shower. I was disappointed for a mili second.

You'll be okay. Sending you a virtual hug and support!

Traditionally, relatives weren't supposed to give a shower anyway. If there was one, it was because a friend volunteered to throw it. That rule has been relaxed some in recent years, but your mother is still not obligated to throw you one.

If you want to do something fun that you can plan host a "bridal brunch" with the ladies or I've seen "recipe showers" (the point is to make it not gift grabby while keeping the fun) I've been to a recipe shower before where all you have to bring is a family recipe on an index card and it was all the fun of a bridal shower without the pressure of gifts. (Ww I may be wrong with this idea, correct me if its a bad idea)

I agree with Mrs K. Dont sit back and let it eat you up, talk in person to your Mom about it.

I'm so sorry that you are feeling sad and loney during your wedding planning. However, sadly no one is entitled to a shower and lots of brides don't end up getting one. Some people will tell you that your mother shouldn't be the one throwing it and it should be someone from outside of your family anyway. Is there anyone else that might be doing this for you?

Honestly, I'm not having a shower and I'm okay with that because I'm more concerned about my bachelorette party.

It does suck being alone in planning but don't let it get to you. Enjoy the little things and remember the purpose of your wedding, to marry the person of your dreams.

Also, change your avatar, you'll get more advice : )

*unpopular opinion ahead*

I just had my shower on Saturday and I can tell you, the feeling of love, kinship and friendship you feel from those closest to you is amazing. There are some on here that say a bride doesn't "deserve" the experience of a shower if no one else will host it.

Should you try to see if someone else can plan it? Yes. But if you can't, don't feel like you are bound by some imaginary entity to not have one. If anyone is offended you threw your own shower, they can choose not to come. I'd never look down on someone for throwing their own shower, for wanting to feel that love....especially having experienced it.

Thanks... Hopefully I'm able able to change my perception on things

It's Mostly it's beacuse I feel so lonely

Ive told my mom how I feel....

It's complicated my two daughters 8 & 12 and my sister who lives 3000 miles away are the ones in my wedding party so they aren't here to do it and my mom said she was going to and then didn't

Follow through

I just wanted wanted to feel special and have the experence and the fun having one! Not neccasarlly for the gifts.:..

And Honestly we have a house so we don't really need anything anyways

Mrs. jkr, I don't think the recipe shower or similar would be tacky--could be framed as a "get to know everyone" gathering prior to the wedding. Of course, OP would need to pay for it. No idea if that's in her budget or not.

Trisha then I suggest a recipe shower for sure! People feel as if they are giving something and you are receiving (which only costs whatever it cost to get an index card if they didn't already have one) and could be all the fun without the pressure of gifts and skirt around the etiquette

I'm sorry. I would feel the same way if I didn't get a shower because I really want one. I think since you said that you have your own house & don't need much anyway, why don't you just plan a girls day out. I like futuremrsjkr's idea

Trisha,

Im not having a shower either, im okay with it..

i come here or and belong to local wedding group on facebook to talk about planning process. Your spirits should be lifted in no time. or plan just a lunch with friends and family that doesnt pertain around the wedding.

No one is doing a bachelorette party either! Lol

Maybe I'll try to do a recipe shower myself!

My extended family are the bests cooks around! I'd love to get some of the O'Brien recipies!

Just adds alot more planning on my part that I'm already overwhelmed with!

I don't have much advice but I am sorry you are feeling this way Hope things work out for you.

You're not alone. I've done a lot of planning and bridal and baby showers of the past and now that I'm having my wedding I expected my best friend (also FSIL) to step in and do a lot of things WITH me in my moment (planning, shopping...stuff like that). Not so. Family drama, depression, something, is always in the way. When things are going negative in her life she tends to resent the positive in the lives of others. My other FSIL and I feel like we need to walk on egg shells around her when we discuss our positive anything. Her biggest interest in the wedding seems to be what she's wearing, but not too much else. I actually told everyone not to give me a bridal shower or a bach party. I didn't want the financial burden on anyone. While I"m obsessed with the planning I try to keep it low key with everyone else so they don't get tired of hearing it or MOH who doesn't really want to hear it. It can be lonely at times. I also feel resentful and angry at times because the minute things pick up for her, if something great happened....it's ALL I'd hear about!! Oh well, what are you going to do? This is your moment with your FH. Plan it and enjoy it!! That's all that matters.

I hear ya. I planned my whole wedding alone, even without my DH for 7 months!I did have a bridal shower but only 1BM could make it. Which was ok i had my shower acros the country cause i could go see DH then.

I would try to get together with some friends for a brunch maybe?