Not excited about the wedding

ALMOST DATE TWIN!

You are the closest I've seen. Your actually getting married on my nieces birthday.

We still have 9 months!

I go through up and downs. A few days Im excited, a few days Im not.

I would say though, if you haven't picked out anything in terms of finding venues you wanna walk through, cakes you wanna taste, photographers your looking into, the excitement can come then or when you actually book them. Once you start planning the excitement could come.

Maybe hit up a bridal show that could help as well and also help with basic planning, getting ideas of what things cost and what kind of style you want.

Everyone is different! I'm excited and my wedding isn't for a year and a half. Some people just don't get excited about the same things. Nothing wrong with that! Have you been with your FH a long time? That could maybe be why too. Either way, I'm sure the closer it gets, the more realistic it'll be and exciting it'll become. Congrats!

I'm excited but the fact that it's so far out does make it hard to really appreciate everything!

Your wedding date is my birthday!

But to answer your question, I think people experience it differently. Once we got engaged I went into business mode, contacting a million different vendors. There were times I felt tired of planning and like the wedding would never get here and I just wanted it to be over, there were other times I would have a moment of realization and get super excited, and there were times I felt like it was approaching too quickly.

I think as long as you are excited to be marrying your FH, you should be fine. A wedding is just a glorified party at the end of the day. If you're excited to be married but planning a wedding does not excite you, there's nothing wrong with that.

Everyone is different, not only in their excitement for the wedding (not the marriage, the party) but for how they approach every important event in their lives! I have couples who check in with me every month with ideas and questions; I have others I barely hear from until the final edit.

I don't necessarily think excitement about the party is something you should worry about; if you're thrilled to be marrying your partner, that really is all that matters.

You've still got a ways to go, I wouldn't worry about it- it will come when it gets closer - I was having sticker shock at the beginning of planning and it made me quite unexcited...

Don't worry OP, I went through something similar, at first it was as if I was on autopilot, when it was time to get estimates, but when we went to see our now decorator's job at our venue we had our "we're really doing this" moment

My excitement comes and goes. Right now it is far gone. I'm tired of making decisions, and feel like I'm getting the run-around on ones I try to make.

Honestly by the time April rolled around I wanted it to be over with. There was so much stress with planning that I wanted it over. The day of however was amazing. Ive never been happier, so it was definitely worth it in the end

I have my days where I am excited and other days, not so much. I feel that I will be really excited closer to the date. You also may not be excited yet because you still have some months to go!

I am unexpectedly constantly excited about the wedding. But if you look at my posts in the past, you'll see I was depressed and dreading it. Once we got over the hardest part (guestlist) I felt much better

I'm not at all excited and I'm 59 days away. I'm nervous and I've pretty much put the rest of the planning on my mom ( which before anybody judges; it's just how she wants it) because I can't deal with it anymore. I wish I'd just eloped but nobody else liked that and now i feel too invested to stop...

Early on i had a lot of anxiety about the wedding-- how to pay for it, how everyone would get along, etc., but as it has gotten closer and some of those issues have worked out, i am starting to get excited. it didn't start feeling real for me until i had my bridal shower a few weeks ago though. since then i have started to get really excited.

Thanks everyone, I'm glad I'm not the only one to feel this way. I am definitely excited to be married, just not too much about the planning. I hate planning parties so that probably has something to do with it lol.

I have people that are not excited about the wedding. And when I talk about it they get mad because that is all I talk about. it hurts a little

I'm excited about the wedding, but I'm not excited about the rest of the planning left to do.

I went through the same thing. At first I was really excited, then for a few months it just became another thing on my to do list. Now that I'm getting pretty close, I'm starting to get more and more excited!

You are not alone. My wedding is in 31 days and all I want is to be done with it. I was pretty excited when I decided on my dress, but that was it.

I was really excited when I first got engaged then it died down. I think once bridal shower/bachloerette rolls around I will get more excited. Of course, I'm excited to marry the love of my life but not for the actual wedding but maybe thats because I don't like planning.

You still have a while, it will come eventually.

Honestly I was with H about 9 years prior to the wedding so I was excited the first week or so that we got engaged but after that I was just excited about the marriage. The wedding/engagement part wasn't exciting. It was the day after the wedding I was looking forward to the most - aka wedding done, married and off for our honeymoon.