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Dawn, on June 2, 2019 at 2:04 PM

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Like the title says ^^^. I’m having wedding fever. I was once married after 3 years dating to my ex husband then divorced 2 years after the wedding. I know one day the man I’m with well ask me to marry him. He hasn’t talked about it or brought it up about marriage but I know he is the one we have been living together since 4 months in our dating together.

I want to to think about a wedding things since a lot of it we’ll be up to me and him to pay for (according to if your on your second marriage as a bride) so can I plan things not dates but like colors and venues (not book any just to have in mind) stuff like that? To have preplanned so it’s not overwhelming when he does ask (I know one day he well ( I can tell I’m his one the way I’m treated and the way I treat him). So would it be bad to start now to pre plan

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Lauren · on June 3, 2019 at 10:26 AM
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I think it depends on much and how seriously you've talked about marriage. I started planning our wedding before we were engaged and had several things already bought before the proposal. However, FH & I talked about marriage a lot before that and everyone in our families (except me obviously) knew when he was proposing so they were fine doing wedding things beforehand as well. I COMPLETELY under the wedding planning fever because I had it as well, but FH & I had already planned out a date and everything before I started doing anything so I knew the proposal was going to happen. I just didn't know when.
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Pirate & 60s Bride · on June 3, 2019 at 10:32 AM
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I’d wait (discuss marriage first at some point to see if y’all are even on the same page). Don’t pre-plan because 1) might freak him out that you’ve jumped the gun on planning 2) you don’t know what kind of wedding you both want. If you want a big wedding & he wants a courthouse elopement, you’ll need to compromise (and that’s wasted pre-planning).
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Furture Mrs. G · on June 3, 2019 at 11:49 AM
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I was kind of in the same boat as you. Not engaged yet- But, thinking of what my "one day" wedding would be like. FH and I had talked about marriage and it actually wasn't until my sisters wedding that he became really serious about it. 10 months after their wedding- he proposed to me
Mind you we have been together 7 years. Let it come naturally. If you are having wedding fever you don't want to let your hopes down by planning a wedding that isn't happening just yet. More conversations in the future should def. happen. So you guys can be on the same page.
I am so happy for you that you are so confident in your relationship and that is a good sign. Just have the talks first.
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Dawn · on June 3, 2019 at 2:53 PM
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We have been talking after I posted this we talked last night like do you see your self getting married he said yes... like have you thought of any think what you like he said well we can do a brown and orange colors (since it the Cleveland browns colors he was joking around) like I said I was married once and it be cheaper off season. So things on that nature were talked about but nothing like tying it down only if I bring it up he well talk about it but he only thinks I am cause of my brother wedding in about a week
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Francesca · on July 19, 2019 at 8:03 PM
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I am in the same boat, we have been together for 6 years we have discussed colors time frame and have narrowed down 2 venues. I am trying to plan as much now being mindful of him and not to bombard or annoy until I get the ring (patiently waiting).
I also don't want to stress him out or not be able to enjoy our engagement once I do get the ring because by not being prepared. I created a guide of all the options we have spoken about like invitations etc so that as the time gets closer we have everything set.
As long as the two of you are on the same page when it comes to marriage and you both know its coming all you are waiting for is the big ? I do not see the harm in making solid plans. Other than that I would definitely get out a bottle of wine and have the conversation sooner rather than later.
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