Not doing plus ones

Kaylia, they should suck it up?? Seriously? I guarantee those that didn't have their SO, side eyed and talked behind the bride's back. I'd be polite as hell to your face, but be side eyeing the hell out of it if my FH wasn't invited.

OP, budget but 175? Nope sorry, you need to Include SO's and this friend you verbally invited. Are you sure they're not a couple??

OP can you clarify whether or not you are considering SO's to be "plus ones"? Are you saying you're not giving any single people plus ones(which is fine), or are you not inviting your guests' SO's?

You verbally invited the friend, just invite her. It's one person.

You realize anyone in a relationship should both be invited.. right? That isn't a plus one, that is a social unit. Sounds like you can't afford to host your guest list, and you should cut it down or push the wedding out to save more.

I would not attend a wedding my H was not invited to. I think if you already verbally told her yes you are stuck inviting her.

If your budget was tight to begin with, you should have cut down the list.

Being young has zero to do with this.

So's all get to come, though I don't agree that every truly single person needs an invite, your bridal party all gets a plus one.

you already verbally invited your sister's friend, so she gets to come.

I think that's it.

Anyone that would have a plus one/SO, I have on the list because I know them as well. I do not have a problem with letting my sister bring her friend, I just didn't know if she would still be included and I see the majority vote is yes.

@Kaylia I am with you on the same page. I have 175 people and I want those who are close to me there on my day.

I know to all of y'all, you probably don't understand how I can be on a budget with 175 people and how I could be close with all of them. Over 60% of these guests are from my church that FH and I have both been raised in, and we don't have a large congregation however these families average around 4 kids each. I am not just looking for gifts or anything, and to me this is a medium sized wedding.

You said yes to your sisters "friend" she can't live without. It's obvious to me that she hes more than a friendship with said friend and this maybe her way of introducing you to her special person. And feeling out if you're gonna be okay with her choice of partner. Just my opinion. But the issue here is you said yes to them both.

@ Kristin @Arline We have already addressed that issue and she denies it so were not sure at this point what they are.

If you're grown up enough to get married, you are grown up enough to have manners. You invited this woman, whoever she is to your sister, so she's coming to your wedding.

Get over it and move on.

I agree with the others that because you already told her yes, that you need to stick to that.

I do not agree with the opinion that everyone needs to be invited with a Plus One. To each their own.

The amount of kids is honestly why I'm not inviting kids outside the BP and those from OOT.

Majority of my friends have at least 2 kids. inviting kids would have added about 15-20 guests... Nope.

If you're comfortable with that many guests, and that many children, all the power to you. The kids would outnumber the adults, that's a lot of kids.

Our wedding is more formal, and my friends wanted an adult evening out, without their kids. Thus we decided only kids in BP and OOT. And that's coming from a mom. I'm perfectly fine getting a sitter so that I can attend a wedding, as are all my friends.

You already told her. You need to invite her.

I have to say.. Being a 36 year old bride, you will probably regret having 175 people at your wedding one day anyway. There is no way that you have that many people close to you. You learn as you get older who is *actually* close to you and who is not. I am super grateful I am having my wedding as an older bride rather than in my 20s because I can definitely see I am saving money. But as you noted, you are young and you don't see that just yet.....

That being said though, picking truley key people to be there is what's important and something you definitely do not want to regret later. This person is really important to a key person in your life so I would say let this one go and have her come. You've already kinda made the mistake of inviting too many people if you are trying to do things on a budget. Good Luck!