Not doing plus ones

Honestly, I do not know what to think about your 'no one needs a plus one' thoughts. So, are you saying that if someone is not married, you will not allow a plus one?

I recently attended a friends wedding. She extended a plus one to me, even though I am not in a relationship with anyone. I am very sued to attending events on my own, so I RSVPd with 1, but I appreciated the plus one. Otherwise, I may have attended a wedding where the only person I knew was the bride.

I personally think you should invite her since you already said you would... It sucks she asked in front of the friend, but you did tell her she was invited. Is there a reason you don't want her at the wedding?

I agree with Enchanted you already said yes. So you have to invite her now. You could of said we'll see or i'll let you know instead of saying yes.

You already invited her, it is pretty rude to take back an invitation. Also. when you say "no plus ones" are you referring to true plus ones, as in single guests?

Yes you should invite her. Why wouldn't you want your sister to have the person she "can't live without" at your wedding? I generally believe in plus ones for everyone, but even if you don't go that far you should give them to your vips.

We have a tight budget and plus ones aren't really in that budget. We have 175 on the guest list and that is really stretching it. None of our friends are expecting a plus one because they will not be without friends. Most of our friends are friends with each other.

You already said yes. I'm sorry, but changing your mind (for any reason) would be totally rude.

It's one person, not a big deal. Plus you told her that she could come so you need to uphold your word.

Are you inviting the SO of those those in a relationship?

You verbally invited her, thus she needs to be sent an invite.

Anyone married or in a serious long term relationship needs a plus one or I think it's rude , personally.

And no, you can't uninvited someone after you invited them, even just verbally

This is a tough one. It sucks that your sister put you on the spot like that (I HATE it when people do that). If you can...go ahead and invite her. I disagree with the popular opinion on here that anyone is entitled to a plus one.

Typically, anyone in a relationship should be extended a plus one. I agree with PP that its crappy to be put on the spot but if you said yes, then you really shouldn't rescind that plus one, IMO.

Again with the "we are young" line. What does that have to do with this? If you're old enough to get married, you're old enough to have manners. Plus ones don't need to be extended to people who are single, unless they don't know anyone else there. However, you need to invite anyone in a relationship (however long that is), married, living together with their SO. That is not considered a plus one .. they are a social unit. 175 is a huge guest list for not including plus ones.

If you verbally invited her, that's your invitation. You, unfortunately, have to extend that invitation. Aside from you saying something to her, that's your sister and I think she's automatically entitled to a plus one if she's not in a relationship.

If you have a 30 guest wedding, saying no plus ones due to budget...it's understandable.

If you say you are having a 175 guest wedding, and there are no plus ones allowed due to budget constraints...all credibility goes out the window.

It looks like you are more concerned with inviting people that will give gifts rather than risking an invite on strangers that may not. Even through that probably isn't your intention.

You verbally gave your word, you should honor it.

@rachel I came here to say the same thing. Bridal party gets plus 1s even if no one else does. And just saying it now - for the rehearsal dinner you invite the entire bridal party and their dates and you pay for it. Not a penny paid by them.

Your budget isn't *that* tight if you can find nearly 200 people to invite.

This is your day! I have family that has done no plus ones as well and in the moment people who weren't allowed to bring a plus one were upset but once the reception started they got over it.

I plan on not doing plus ones as well just because I only want the people that I truly care about to be there in my special day.

Best of luck!

If you gave a verbal invitation, you should up hold it. Also, expect a lot of the 175 guest to not show if they're SO's are not invited. I would suggest cutting your guest list.

First off, make sure when you say no plus ones you actually know who a plus one is, and isn't. Any wedding invite where I'm invited without my husband is an easy decline. Your sister is a VIP and you already told her she could bring her friend so just suck it up and let her bring her friend. With a 175 person guest list you're barely going to even notice she's there. My husband's sister brought one of her friends and I talked to her briefly once the whole day.

It is ONE person that you already verbally invited...please send her the STD and move on with life.