not doing father/daughter dance :(

Do you have a Grandfather you're close with still around? My FH sister danced with their grandfather because she's not that close with her dad either.

Aww, that's sad. But I do understand. My mom isn't even invited. Sometimes it's rough and just happens that way. Have you considered dancing with your son as well? Or maybe with your best friend? Also, instead of a father/daughter dance, if you have any siblings, you could ask one of them to compose a poem or something and read it.

Well I have younger sister. And I do have a brother but we aren't close at all. i don't even know where he is at. Both of my grandfathers passed away. I did think of dancing with my son. But he is only six and gets shy. SoI was thinking of just cutting that out.

But I know that my FH will dance with his mom. Osmaybe we will do our first dance and just the mother/son dance.

You could do that or you can still dance with your dad if you want even if he isn't walking you down the aisle.

No I really don't want him there. So I am hoping that he won't be around. I am just not going to do ne thing and cut that part out

You could dance with your Father-In-Law

Why not dance with your son? I have a son from a previous marriage and a daughter with my FH. We are expanding the traditional mother/son and father/daughter dance so that while he is dancing with his mom, I will be dancing with my son and vice versa.

Im not doing a father daught dance either, I am considering dancing with my uncle, be was practically my father anyway.

Just don't do a father/daughter dance. If your Dad is invited, it will be awkward. Just do your first dance, and have the DJ move on. Even though you're not close, you don't want everybody talking about why you're not dancing with your Dad.

I was not close to my father either and he did not even come to my wedding. I danced with my uncle who had always been there and my stepdad, who hasn't been here long but has done a good job so far. I would dance with your son if he will do it. It will make him feel really special and included.

I agree with MJ. Nothing is dictating that you have to have a father/daughter dance. Just skip it.

Why dont you dance with your son? I have the same problem with my wedding, but im having my daughter and my Fh dance i thought it would be cute.

Why not dance with your son? Since he's shy he can lay his head on your shoulder as you hold him and dance That would be real cute.

Is it mandatory for you to have the Father/Daughter Dance? My father NEVER dances, so I'm not having that peice in our reception - nor, am I dances with another male in his place. What I am going to do, in lieu of the dance, is present him with a small gift at that time. That way he's still apart of the reception, but not in the "traditional" way. Good luck!

I agree with MJ as well, my sister got married a few years back and they didn't do a father daughter dance or a mother son dance either and no one noticed at all. Plus it allowed the guests to start dancing right away without having to wait until a bunch of dances are over where they can't participate. I was debating not having one either, I was at a wedding in August and they had so many specified dances that me and my fiance had to wait 45 min before we even got to dance. They literally had their dance, dance for father daughter, dance for mother son, married couples dance (where they asked all of the married couples to come out and then one by one they had ppl sit according to how long they had been married, that took 20-25 min in itself), a bridal party dance, dollar dance, and then they started with the YMCA, lol.

Trina,

You might consider dancing with your son, and then have your father-in-law cut in part way through the song. That way it relieves your son of having to be dancing for long, and is symbolic of your father-in-law welcoming you into their family.

Dan

Thank everyone. well for my first dance it's more than one song. And myson will be apart of that. I am not going to do a father daughter dance. But my son will be walking me don the aisle. My FH dad passed away when we were 15 but my FMIl did get remarried. But FH and his stepdad aren't close. Maybe I will do a dance with my FBIL. In the place of the father/daughter dance. I know that he will do it. He loves to have the spot light on him. But FH did suggest that we kinda do everything togethor. As a gruop dance. And incorparate all that in one. So I will see what I can come up with.