Not close to my sister...do you regret not having family in the wedding?

Unless she's expressed serious interest in wanting to be in the wedding, ignore your mother! My sisters and I aren't close, we all 4 live in different cities and hardly talk but yet it was important to me to have them in my wedding, BIG MISTAKE! Pretty much everything I've asked them to do is an inconvenience (which was only to look for dresses and then go be sized) they never have "time" to do anything, it has been so frustrating!!

I have 2 sisters. Neither of them will be in my wedding. My cousin will be my MOH.

I'll only feel guilty when my mom gives me grief about it.

People have different ideas on what a bridesmaid is all about. When I was my BFF's MOH I threw her a bridal shower, went shopping to get wedding dress/stuff, and gave a toast. But more significantly to me, I am the number one witness she has to the vows she and her husband made. So I am still here to support them as a couple. There have been a few times over the years when I have even spoken up when I felt that a habit or attitude of theirs was an obstacle to their vows to "love, honor, cherish."

Having said all that, when it was my turn to get married, I didn't have bridesmaids and groomsmen. We went a completely different route by having our closest friends light the candles, our siblings and their kids walk up the aisle and sit in the first row, and our parents stand with us. It was a throwback to the "joining of two families" tradition rather than the "witness of your vows" concept.

I asked my sister and have regretted it the entire time. She gets mad if I try to get her opinion on things, gets mad when I don't, and basically it's just been a huge fight the whole time or me trying to keep her happy when I should be enjoying wedding planning... She's actually co-MOH with my best friend and it's hard to get anything done because my best friend is honestly terrified of her... It's pretty bad. I strongly suggest you don't ask her if you don't want her in the wedding. If your parents get upset about it have her do a reading or be your guest book attendant

I'm in EXACTLY the same situation. HORRID sister, parents are only paying for my dress, I don't want my sister to be in my wedding much less even in attendance. As a matter of fact, I'm not even having a bridal party because I'd rather not than have her in it (which my parents will demand). My sister is so incredibly self-centered, and my mom is so co-dependent on her, that when I asked my mom to go dress shopping with me she initially insisted my sister go too because it's been my sister's life-long dream to try wedding dresses on!! On MY DAY!!! She doesn't even have a boyfriend!! Anyway, I digress... I told my mom last night in no uncertain terms that my sister is not even allowed to come to my engagement party or wedding and my mom started to cry. That made me feel terrible, but I can't allow myself to forget what an absolute nightmare WILL occur and what complete chaos my wedding WILL be if she IS there. Ugh. Sucks, but it's the cards we've been dealt

Glad I am not the only one with a horrid sister. My dad passed away over 20 years ago, and last summer, my mom died suddenly of a heart attack. All of my mom's life insurance was in my sister's name only, which she knew and did not tell me when we were at the funeral home, and since she had bankruptcies and a foreclosure, she had no credit cards to pay for the funeral and burial. So I put it all $18,000 on my credit card, only to have my sister keep all of the insurance money for herself. I had to use my savings to avoid $500 in interest every month. Every penny (and then some) that I had saved for my wedding and down payment on a home was gone, and my sister was posting her Atlantic City vacation pictures with wads of cash in her hands all over Facebook. I got a lawyer, but the only thing I could get from it was being the administrator of my mom's estate to be sure I get reimbursed when my mom's house is sold (turns out she could not be one due to her felony arrest for drugs).

Needless to say, my sister is not invited to the wedding.

I wanted my 3 nieces (her daughters) to be my bridesmaids and she forbade them from even attending. They are all over 18, and said that they were not listening to her, but I live in doubt every day that my wedding day will come and none of my bridesmaids will show up. I'm considering holding their dresses in case I have to throw them on 3 other invitees the day of.

Do not feel bad if you do not include her. You will not be the only bride to do this, as our stories are showing you.

GIRL! My sister is the exact same. Except she's 16 so add all those hormones in there with it. It was a really tough decision, but I decided to have her in my wedding. My reasoning was, that in 10 years from now, I don't want her hurt from not being in my wedding prevent us from ever having a relationship. And I also felt like that if she was going to do stupid stuff at my wedding and throw a tantrum and make everyone miserable, that she would have to live with that. I know that it's a tough decision, and the right one will come to you.. Hang in there!