Not changing my name, how do i address this?

People say names wrong everyday, so working yourself up over it is not going to change the fact when they address you, it is common courtesy .. Shake it off and move pass it. That's a small fry !! (Make it bold on your invitations)

I'm glad I'm not the only one with the same issue! I too will be getting married in February 2020 (with the reception being held on June 2020), and I have no clue how to inform people. I definitely want to address it as early as possible. Hell, I kinda wish I had mentioned it in my very informal announcement on Facebook, but I didn't think of it then. Now that we're getting closer to actually signing papers and stuff, I'm realizing: "Wait a second, I'm keeping my name!"

I was thinking, since my husband (or future husband - whatever!) and I will be stating on the invite that we'll be accepting gifts in form of money, to keep in mind that I will be keeping my last name, so make checks out to "Marta MyLastname, not Marta HisLastname" - I think that's subtle...rite?

We decided to send out an invite that says "PS - We have both opted to keep our respective last names so please make sure to address any correspondence to myname mylastname & hisname hislastname" that way it's like not too too in your face. We keep getting letters still addressing me with both, but hopefully this whole fiasco will be cleared up when we send out letters.

Also - we're including it on the return label and our website so hopefully it's kinda drilled into their head. After that point if I get one more letter with "Mrs. & Mr. hisname lastname" I am sending them a letter full of glitter that says "I AM NOT MRS. HISLASTNAME GIRLFRIEND - I am my own darn woman, respect me as such" back . I'm very adamant about this.

I think that's a very elegant way of putting it! I too have decided to go a similar route: "In regards to our names, Matthew and I will remain: Mr. Matthew C. and Ms. Marta D." And for Holiday cards, to simply label them: "Matt and Marta."

And I wasn't sure whether or not to do a wedding website, but now I will, as you are correct: this should be ingrained into them.

High five for a great job done thus far! ✋😂

Return addresses on thank-you notes and wedding announcements (and, later, holiday cards) can be useful: Spell out both names in full. Doesn't work with everyone, but some people can read.