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Non traditional wedding reception

Amanda, on July 2, 2015 at 2:14 PM Posted in Planning 1 13

My fiancé and I have both been previously married and divorced, so we are wanting to do things a little differently. We do not want a traditional reception. We aren't wanting first dances or cake cutting or anything like that. We are just wanting our friends and family to be able to come and enjoy their time with us. No schedule. Has anyone been to a reception like this or are planning one like this? I would love ideas on how to make it non traditional but also not a complete mess.

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Latest activity by Kelli, on July 3, 2015 at 12:55 PM
  • AthenaKay
    Master June 2015
    AthenaKay ·
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    I could see that going fine. Just have the dinner, cake, and speeches. Then dance the night away! And when I say speeches it can be just you and your FH saying thank you to your guests. Nothing fancy.

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  • Snarky
    Master September 2014
    Snarky ·
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    Isn't that just called a party?

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  • Catherine
    Expert September 2015
    Catherine ·
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    If there isn't some structure then guests won't know what to and it will end up being awkward. If you're not going to do the "traditional" things, then you need have very clear insrtuctions.

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  • MrsMorales
    VIP September 2015
    MrsMorales ·
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    I think that's just called a party. Which is totally fine, but if your guests don't know each other well...no structure is kinda awkward.

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  • A
    Just Said Yes June 2016
    Amanda ·
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    Thank you ladies. What kind of "structure" could I do but still keep it non traditional?

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  • OMW
    Master August 2013
    OMW ·
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    Sounds great! Aren't all receptions parties anyways?

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  • Catherine
    Expert September 2015
    Catherine ·
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    We're not having a "traditional" reception either, so for every "traditional" portion that we're excluding we repalced it with something else. For example we're not having dancing, so therefore no first dance. Instead we're playing the shoe game. We also have someone designated to give instructions to guests, so they always know what's going on.

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  • Jamgirl
    VIP July 2015
    Jamgirl ·
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    My cousin did this a couple years ago, it was really fun.

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    Just Said Yes July 2015
    Michael ·
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    Recently, I have been to my cousin's wedding, the reception was amazing. The venue location was itself very pretty, the banyan tree really makes a good statement in the courtyard. They have arranged the reception in a very simple, non traditional way, we had dinner and there was very slow music which was making the environment very romantic. I liked a lot.

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  • Celia Milton
    Celia Milton ·
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    Lots of my couples dispense with traditional stuff; bridal parties, processions, toasts. What makes it a wedding reception is..well...the wedding part....

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  • Robin
    VIP September 2015
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    Amanda I'm in your boat. Both Married before and just wanting to have a party. Our invitations invite people to an "end of summer cocktail party". At the very bottom we say we are getting married "after all these years".. (14 to be precise.) We are doing a cocktail party. Here's the timeline: 1 pm arrival. Wait staff circulates drinks and bar is open. Ceremony and we will thank people 1:15-1:30. We have no wedding party, just my Dogue who may not attend. A few stations (raw bar, cheese crackers fruit, mashed potini bar, beef tenderloin carving station etc) and appetizers are passed. This goes til 2:30-2:45. At 2:45 we will do a quick dance (he wants to) for 2:38. I timed it. Then the DJ is calling up a few people, by name, playing "Sugar" by Maroon 5 and the dancing begins. We may put out stationary apps at about 4 pm but I don't think it's necessary. We are not cutting the cake but will serve cake at 4:30 pm at which time I'm going to ask the DJ to announce that the bar closes in 15 minutes. So cake and "last call" then we are done at 5.

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  • SoonToBeMrsMenchen
    Devoted October 2015
    SoonToBeMrsMenchen ·
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    We are renting out a banquet room at our favorite restaurant. So it won't be your typical scheduled reception. It will be pretty relaxed atmosphere. We have both been married before and didn't want a big to do like our first wedding.

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  • Kelli
    Master September 2015
    Kelli ·
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    We started out the same as you - we just wanted to host our family and close friends for a nice dinner and cocktails to celebrate our marriage.

    We ended up doing a mix of traditional and not. This will be second marriage for both of us. We both have grown children and he has grandchildren. My daughter is MOH and his son is BM. His granddaughters are flowergirls. We are having our ceremony and reception at the same venue with 40-50 guests. We are providing dinner, cocktails, and cake. We are not having dancing. A string trio will provide music during the ceremony and cocktails and our iPod will provide music during the dinner. We do have a timeline because it is important for guests to know what is going on - ceremony at 6:30, bar opens at 7:00, dinner served at 7:30, bar closes at 10:00. In there somewhere will be a few toasts and the cake cutting. We will all be in the same room so it will be easy to get everyone's attention to say "hey we are cutting the cake" Smiley smile

    I think the key to make it non-traditional and still have some structure is keep it small and have a timeline so guests know what is going on.

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